Communication plays a very important role in our life. What kind of interlocutor are you? There are people who start long monologues, usually lonely people. If you don't want to be such a boring conversation partner, it is important to be empathetic to other people.
Establish feedback, find out if it is convenient for a person to talk now, is this topic interesting to him, do not put your interests above the interests of the interlocutor.
If you have to become an involuntary listener of a long monologue, but you don’t want to listen to it or don’t have time, immediately stop the interlocutor and politely say that you are busy. Sometimes there are such intrusive people who cannot be interrupted, in which case it is necessary to end the conversation, citing any reasons.
Don't be overly emotional when trying to prove you are right. People don't like that kind. Therefore, try to avoid slippery and rather subtle topics, such as political or religious views, where serious disagreements are possible.
You need to be able to convey to the interlocutor that he touched you with something, but talk exclusively about yourself. That is, it is better to say not “You offended me”, but “I am a little upset with your words”. If you keep repeating “you, you, you,” it can lead to bad consequences.
Praise the interlocutor, you can use several fairly simple, but very effective ways.
1. To show the interlocutor that you are listening carefully, from time to time repeat the last few words spoken by him.
2. Do not give unsolicited advice, it is often perceived as a reproach. If you are talking with men, then the desire to help can be perceived by a man as distrust of him.
3. Always listen carefully to the interlocutor, even if you are not very interested.
4. Ask questions. Ask questions with open endings, that is, questions that cannot be answered "yes" or "no."
5. Ask to tell your interlocutor about things that are important to him. A good question might be, for example, "How did you get into this business?" Usually, in response to such a question, people enthusiastically begin to talk about their lives. And if you listen carefully to the interlocutor, he will be very grateful to you.
These simple rules can be applied in communication with absolutely any people. This will greatly facilitate your communication and make you a wonderful conversationalist in their eyes.
