Even calm people, due to fatigue and nervous tension, can break loose and begin to behave aggressively. They then regret their intemperance and apologize. But if this began to happen more and more often, you need to think about the question: how to curb your aggression. Inappropriate behavior harms primarily the aggressor himself, creating problems for him at work and in his personal life.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to find the answer to the question: what in general makes you show aggression, behave intemperate? Be extremely honest and impartial. Do not console yourself with arguments like: "What can I do, everyone in our family was so hot-tempered, you can't argue with genetics." This is just an excuse for their own weakness and licentiousness.
Step 2
If your outbursts of aggression are caused by problems at work or in family life, inspire yourself that these problems will not disappear from such behavior, but will only worsen. After all, you yourself create for yourself the reputation of a shameless rude and brawler who, because of a mere trifle, can pounce on another person. You probably would not want to communicate with such a subject. Better try to solve these problems, then there will be no reasons for irritation and aggression.
Step 3
Often, aggression, especially in the family circle, is caused by a mismatch in the value system. It is often difficult for parents to come to terms with the idea that children do not want to follow in their footsteps, continuing the dynasty, or dress the wrong way, listen to the wrong music, etc. As a result, mutual grievances, misunderstandings, reproaches appear, which only aggravates the situation. And from here to aggression one step. Therefore, if you are exactly one of these parents, try to understand, although your children owe you a lot, they should not consider your views and tastes to be the only correct ones and check every step with your wishes. As soon as you get used to the idea that they may have completely different views, tastes, hobbies, your aggressiveness will begin to disappear.
Step 4
Behave in the same way if you are annoyed by someone from your acquaintances, colleagues. Just accept that everyone has the right to be different from you, to behave differently. Or at least try to minimize communication with this person. It's better than throwing your annoyance on him.
Step 5
If the aggressiveness is caused by overwork, physical and psychological, be sure to rest, change the environment. You can also take sedatives as directed by your doctor. Master the technique of self-hypnosis. All of these will help you curb aggression.
