Excessive aggressiveness can have a negative impact on all aspects of life. Intemperate behavior spoils relationships with others, prevents them from achieving success in their careers, and negatively affects the atmosphere in the family. Learn to deal with strong emotions.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what does not suit you globally in your life. Maybe you are unhappy with the way your personal life is shaping up. Then, until you establish a relationship with your partner, aggressiveness and irritability can be your companions. Perhaps you hate your job. Think, maybe it is worth changing the place of work or profession. Unresolved issues in areas that are important to you in life can affect both your mood and your character.
Step 2
Analyze your expectations for other people. Maybe you are too demanding of others, and when the behavior of people does not correspond to your concepts, you get angry. Understand that no one owes you anything. Treat the actions and words of others more condescendingly, then there will be no disappointment in them, which translates into aggression.
Step 3
Find a way to express your emotions. Get involved in physical activity. Going to the gym or group activities can reduce aggressiveness. Swimming very well relaxes not only muscles, but also the nervous system. Yoga calms the mind and promotes harmony between body and soul.
Step 4
Imagine how you look from the outside in those moments when aggression seizes you: crazy eyes, sharp movements, red face, hysterical notes in your voice. The portrait is not very attractive. Ask a close friend or family member to discreetly camcorder you when you are pissed off. Review the recording later and understand that this is how you look in the eyes of others. Perhaps this experiment will show you how important it is to work on expressing your emotions.
Step 5
Discuss problems with family members and colleagues as soon as they arise. Do this in a relaxed environment. Do not be silent if something does not suit you. As long as you can react calmly to the situation, resolve the issue in an atmosphere of trust and understanding. So you will not drive yourself to a frenzy and save yourself some of the problems.
Step 6
Use a variety of techniques to calm your nerves. Breathing exercises can help you. Practice breathing-holding exercises while inhaling or exhaling, alternately closing the right and left nostrils. Breathe deeply and slowly, then frequently and energetically. It helps to recover by washing with cold water and slowly counting to yourself to 10.
Step 7
Become more feminine. Perhaps accepting your femininity will help you get rid of excessive aggressiveness. Start wearing romantic dresses and skirts and wear heels. Feel like a real lady who shouldn't lose her face. Make your movements smoother and your voice softer. Don't forget about a friendly smile. Sometimes internal changes come through the transformation of appearance.
Step 8
Learn to deal with annoying little things easier. Sometimes it is they who become the last straw and provoke an explosion of negative emotions. Be realistic. Think about whether this or that annoying incident will matter to you in a few years.
