There is probably no such person in the world who has not experienced at least the pricks of jealousy. People worry and spoil their mood, feeling fear from the thought that they can lose their loved ones because there is someone stronger, smarter, more charming, etc. And you can hardly get rid of jealousy completely, because it would mean that you simply became indifferent. But jealousy as a disease is also not needed, and it is worth learning to control this feeling so as not to spoil the relationship.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are overwhelmed by a fit of jealousy, do not rush to swear, sort things out, or do any other stupid things. Try to retire. Sit down, calm down and think carefully about whether you should be jealous in this case. After all, a loved one can easily be offended if your accusations are groundless. So do you need to create problems for yourself?
Step 2
Ask yourself honestly why you are jealous. Think about why this happened. If you notice that your loved one really pays excessive attention to other women, do not try to "gnaw" yourself - it will not help. It is better to analyze your weak points, perhaps you should change something in yourself, for example, some character traits or appearance. Develop self-confidence.
Step 3
Try to be distracted by something extraneous to forget about unpleasant feelings for a while. Do what you love, watch an interesting movie, take a walk in the fresh air, play with your child, etc. You can throw out your emotions in some kind of physical activity, for example, go in for sports, do the cleaning of the apartment, or do the laundry.
Step 4
When you're completely calm, talk to your loved one in private. Talk about your doubts and concerns as impartially as possible, without blame or reproach. Perhaps you will come to a decision that you both should change your behavior. In any case, you will understand what you personally lack.
Step 5
Try to behave calmly and judiciously. If you see how your beloved turns around after some girl, it is hardly worth pulling him down or getting angry. Many men do this, and if you do not focus on this fact, your boyfriend may, in a couple of minutes, forget about what he saw.
Step 6
Even if you have been provided with some photographs or documents that allegedly confirm the fact of a betrayal of a loved one, do not rush to react. First, think about the purpose for which this is being done. Perhaps they want to make money on you or someone wants to upset your relationship. In some cases, counterfeits are possible. But even if this turns out to be true, you should not scandalize and humiliate yourself.
Step 7
If you come to the idea that you are being cheated on, then try to think logically: this will happen regardless of your jealousy, what you think about it or how you behave. The world around you does not collapse, you can see other people, enjoy life and be happy for a person who wants to find his own happiness. True love lies in giving something to your loved one, not taking in return. Otherwise, it is not love, but bargaining.
Step 8
Another person, even the closest one, is not your personal thing and he cannot belong only to you. In the same way, you should not completely depend on another person, because you are an independent person. Self-respect and self-love are as important to you as love for other people.
Step 9
If you are still unable to cope with your oppressive feeling of jealousy on your own, there is nothing wrong with asking a specialist for advice. See a psychologist.
