In such a situation, a person is often lost. It's hard to figure out how to proceed. On the one hand, you were given a compliment, and on the other, you were insulted. If this is repeated regularly, it is necessary to stop it using various communication techniques.
Some individuals just like to tell people covert nasty things. Usually, this is done by individuals who are not allowed by upbringing to say hurtful words to a person in the face. On the one hand, it is impossible to be offended by such a statement, but on the other hand, an unpleasant aftertaste remains on the soul.
The following main types of hidden insults can be distinguished:
- provocation of feelings of guilt;
- Doubt about competence;
- a rude joke.
You can answer them in different ways. Return the "compliment" to the offender.
Attention
More often than not, when asking to do something, relatives begin to complain, causing feelings of guilt. Show attention, and if hidden insults are repeated regularly, then talk directly to the abuser.
Indifference
If you express doubts about your competence, taste preferences, etc., then pretend that you have not heard. You can also answer, for example, with the phrase: "This is my choice."
Mirroring
If you joked rudely, then respond with the same coin. Each has weak points and you can think of similar hidden insults.
People like to humiliate others, so they rise in their own eyes. This kind of "compliments" should not be passed on deaf ears, constantly being insulted.
