It is human nature to make the same mistakes. This is understandable. There are cynical truths that not everyone is willing to admit. Only by understanding and accepting them, you can move forward.
Some truths may seem cynical, but they are the truth of life. Don't ignore them. Acceptance of the laws of nature helps to better understand life, achieve success on the personal front, in communicating with people, in a career.
By forgiving, a person helps evil to ensure impunity
Many believe that to gain peace of mind and balance, you need to be able to forgive. Only then can you enter the new day with pure thoughts. This is partly true, but we must not forget that there are two types of forgiveness: mental and behavioral. The soul is aimed at overcoming one's own experiences. It helps not to think about the bad, to abstract. Behavioral forgiveness allows you to resume communication with the abuser. It is very harmful. By forgiving evil, a person helps others to believe in impunity. This gives rise to new atrocities.
Failures in life are a must
The vast majority of successful people have gone through a lot of trouble and setbacks to the point where they have achieved results. Failures in life temper, give an opportunity to show character. You should not take them as a signal about the need to turn off the intended path. The biographies of some celebrities are proof of this fact. Many famous artists, writers, musicians were able to achieve the desired goal only because they believed in themselves, did not take troubles too close to their hearts.
Money is the most important thing
Many people are reluctant to admit that money greatly affects the quality of life. Some things, of course, cannot be bought for them. But with money, you are much more likely to become healthy, happy. They provide a lot of possibilities. With money, you can see the world, realize yourself, impress others, find a soul mate or do charity work.
You need to be able to say "no"
The ability to say "no" is one of the main ingredients for success. There is no need to associate this word with negative, rudeness. People who stubbornly ignore such a simple truth often suffer from an inability to realize themselves. They have problems in their personal lives. The ability to refuse is more likely associated with the will and rational selection of people, activities, events.
Review your friends list from time to time
No need to communicate with people out of habit or out of pity. Sometimes it's worth taking a real look at things and realizing that relationships with some friends have long outlived their usefulness. If a person pulls down, constantly pulls into trouble, shares only negative, abuses friendship, it is better to refuse him. No matter how cynical it may sound, such communication is not beneficial. You should not maintain relationships with those who at least once did not lend a helping hand when it was necessary. The situation will repeat itself, so there is no need to build illusions.
Everyone uses their loved ones
Realizing this truth allows you to look at the world in a different way. All people use each other. Only love between children and parents is unconditional. The employer uses the resources of employees, acquaintances need connections, the ability to cheer, the ability to borrow money. Even the best friend needs communication, support, company, confidence that he will be comforted in difficult times. Understanding this cynical truth helps to avoid creating illusions and getting rid of feelings of guilt.
You only need to think about yourself
Healthy selfishness will not hurt anyone. The most important thing in the life of every person is himself. Those who say otherwise are simply cunning. You should always be guided, first of all, by your own interests, and not by the interests of friends, acquaintances, neighbors. This even applies to moms. They also need to take care of themselves in order to be able to give something to their children.
When a person wants something, he looks for opportunities, not reasons
This truth is one of the most important. If a person is constantly looking for excuses, then he does not really want to do anything. You have to accept it. You should also be honest with yourself. The search for excuses does not have the best effect on the psychological state. You just need to understand what the reason is, and then make a decision: abandon the idea or still overpower yourself.
The whole world is a theater
Many people are not who they say they are. With some you have to be very careful. Do not take their words at face value. It is better to focus on actions, analyze behavior. Understanding that all people are different, and some loved ones may lie, trying to look their best protects against serious disappointment.
Life is very short
Everyone understands this, but they continue to endlessly wonder at death. You need to live today. Death should not be ignored, but there is no point in being afraid of it either. It is simply the result, and the worst thing is when a person dies morally during his lifetime. Remembering this simple truth, you need to try to live so that later it will not hurt for the years spent aimlessly.
