Emotions are manifestations of feelings. Each person is endowed with the ability to feel this or that feeling. Some do not hide their violent emotions, others try to keep them to themselves, but there are also those who are afraid or do not consider it necessary to openly show their feelings.
In family relationships, everything is so individual that each specific case needs detailed consideration. The common unspoken laws of a happy marriage call to appreciate each other, respect personal space, listen to your partner and talk to him about pressing problems. Down with egocentrism, jealousy, distrust. All this works great if both partners adhere to such canons and are able to find mutual understanding. If only one person is able to analyze the situation and not give the primary outlet to emotions, then sooner or later the vessel will overflow.
Often, the external restraint of such feelings as resentment, irritation, discontent flows into a large internal conflict. A woman or a man can suppress, hide their real emotions for several reasons. And this reason is not always wisdom. Elementary fear of a partner, and of a different nature. For example, the fear of not appearing in the best light. They also include fear of consequences (trip, planned purchase, romantic evening will fail). And what is most sad, the real fear of punishment for their expressed and expressed emotions.
Unwillingness to hurt, ruin the atmosphere in the family can also lead to swallowing resentments and distance from each other. It is best when partners know how to both express their feelings and accept them from another person, summarize, draw useful conclusions. Sometimes, in family relationships, on the contrary, there is not enough expression of any emotions. A husband or wife wants to feel or see how their half is able to rejoice violently, sincerely upset, even if angry and angry. After all, a person who is overly controlling his emotions runs the risk of appearing callous and indifferent. An ideal married couple, whose calm, tactful and attentive attitude towards each other is set as an example, in fact, may turn out to be a family where everyone lives on their own, for a long time not showing feelings for a partner. And a married couple, where a noisy showdown borders on extravagant antics, in fact turns out to be a strong union, where the first is a complement to the second.
Psychologists' advice and training on controlling your emotions is certainly important. Unfortunately, sometimes it is not possible to switch to the desired "frequency". And the level of perception of a particular situation is different for everyone. Just like the social factors of a person - upbringing, education, a sense of proportion, delicacy, politeness.
One thing is true, feelings and emotions are obligatory companions of every person. Negative and positive, they are simply necessary in the life of an intelligent person. In family relationships, the main thing is that the feelings are sincere.
