There is a stereotype that women are more envious creatures than men. In part, he is correct: manifestations of envy are inherent in the weaker sex more often than the strong. But it is also common for guys to periodically feel displeasure that someone's life is doing better than theirs.
Instructions
Step 1
Envy is called feelings of displeasure, dissatisfaction arising from the realization that someone has something that the envious person does not have. This is a destructive set of emotions that are harmful both for the person himself and for the one he envies.
Step 2
Social psychologists believe that envy is a form of aggression. As a rule, the owners of this feeling do not just regret not having something that others have. They also actively act to deprive a person of his acquisition and thereby set him on a par with themselves. It turns out that envious people, instead of developing and achieving the same success that others have, prefer to "lower" the enemy to their level. That is why this feeling is condemned both in secular life and in many religions.
Step 3
Unlike men, women have fewer ways to express aggression. Guys can fight, they can insult each other, go to direct conflict and opposition. Nobody would call them crazy for that. For women, direct manifestation of aggression is contraindicated, it is not approved by society. Conflicting and aggressive women are called hysterics, neurotics, bitches, etc. Therefore, one has to act not directly, but surreptitiously. Envy helps ladies let off steam and experience negative emotions from the fact that they are losing in the competition for a man, a job or some kind of material wealth.
Step 4
Envy is associated with the struggle for resources. Unenviable women don't think there isn't enough men, money, or pretty dresses for everyone. Therefore, they calmly react if they see a friend in a new limousine or with a tall, handsome husband. But there are not so many of them. Society has drummed into girls from childhood that there are few men, that it is not possible to get a good job without cronyism, and so on. There is a feeling of their own helplessness in matters of earnings or finding interesting guys, as well as an increased sense of competition. And then every manifestation of success among friends becomes not just a reminder of this unpleasant experience, it is a reason for inner pain from the fact that someone's life is going better.
Step 5
Envy can be the result of increased self-esteem amid laziness and unwillingness to take action. Women are also taught to be passive from childhood. You can't ask for an increase in salary, you can't be the first to meet a guy, etc. Such stereotypes are a bad companion in the struggle for success and prosperity. Getting rid of them helps to replace envy with a sense of fulfillment in achievement.
