An envious person is always missing something. That is why he begins to compare himself with others, comparing external data, intelligence, well-being, career success. Along with envy, anger can come, which does not allow a sober assessment of the situation.
Instructions
Step 1
How to get rid of envious thoughts and anger towards yourself and others? When they are haunted, the person becomes irritable, nightmares or insomnia can torment him, which leads to health problems. To stop being envious and angry, you need to write down on paper all your own achievements, talents, abilities, skills, positive character traits, etc. This will help you rise in your own eyes and stop being jealous of others.
Step 2
Think about what you are missing for happiness. There will be no place in this list for "a car, like a neighbor on top" or "a man, like a colleague at work." Focus on an original idea that only you have. Another important point: you must want this dream to come true, not because someone will "burst with envy," but solely because you want it to come true. Direct all your energies towards achieving the goal. To do this, you will need to plan and act. If you are completely absorbed in the goal, the first results of labor will not be long in coming, and evil envy will cease to torment you.
Step 3
An emotionally influenced person without realizing it can "feed" anger with negative emotions. From this, he becomes sharper, dispersed, and, as a result, begins to make mistakes in his work, be rude, etc. And from the fact that “everything is falling out of his hands”, he begins to get even more angry. A pause will help you get out of this vicious circle. As soon as you feel overwhelmed with anger, stop, close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths.
Step 4
Let your emotions come out from time to time, for example, write down all your thoughts in a journal. Describe in detail how you feel about the object of your anger and why. This method will help to identify the cause of aggression, and knowing it, you can look for ways to solve the problem. It is better to burn the leaf on which all the negativity will pour out, having previously written out separately the reasons and methods of getting rid of anger. If you cannot control the manifestations of malicious emotions or overcome envy on your own, you will need psychological help from a specialist.
