Selfishness does not make a person attractive. People who are too selfish are usually disliked by those around them. And a person complicates his life, often without noticing it. Reproaches are often annoying, but often make you think about how to defeat this quality.
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Step 1
Selfishness is a very complex and ambiguous concept. The fact is that often the same person is considered by different people to be selfish to varying degrees. And strictly speaking, there are no standards. Moreover, accusations of selfishness are usually manipulations. It's just that the environment wants the person to feel guilty and obliged to do what is required. Otherwise, you will be considered an insensitive person who does not take into account the wishes and requirements of loved ones, and thinks only of himself. Therefore, do not rush to be offended, it is better to just tell yourself that your loved ones have not found a better way to draw your attention to their needs.
Step 2
What is most often called selfishness in everyday life is simply a certain isolation from the world and absorption in one's own tasks. The reasons can be very different. It may be a lack of some resources, such as time or money, and the person throws all his strength into solving his very difficult tasks. In this case, the accused of selfishness needs to explain the situation to relatives. Ask to be patient for a while until it becomes easier with resources, or to help.
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The second reason for selfish behavior is the inability of a person to think holistically, systematically. That is, a person does not understand that he and his loved ones are an integral system in which the movement of resources cannot be carried out in only one direction. And sooner or later the system will collapse. The family will collapse, friends will leave. Therefore, you just need to think about what exactly friends and relatives are valuable to you, what you can give them. And do something every day for the benefit of your loved ones. You will love it, and the change for the better will quickly be noticed.
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The third reason is the initially consumer attitude towards the world. It occurs in those who feel like a big child. This has its advantages. For spontaneity and emotionality, you will be forgiven selfishness, but for this, at least sometimes look at the situation in an adult way.
