Sometimes one quality prevents a person from achieving what he wants - self-doubt. It is associated with low self-esteem, inability to make decisions and be responsible for them, the presence of complexes and many more reasons. Regardless of the reason for its appearance, you need to fight self-doubt so that it does not further complicate your life.
Instructions
Step 1
First, try to imagine what a confident person looks like. Surely, the image of a successful, healthy, strong, stately person immediately comes up, who with all his appearance expresses self-confidence. Such people can always be discerned in the crowd. The most important aspect of his appearance is always his posture and gait. Straightened shoulders and a straight back will immediately give you confidence, and therefore engage in correct posture. It can be obtained by playing sports, yoga, dancing. Also, there you can learn to feel your body, and this is very important for developing self-confidence.
Step 2
An important rule in overcoming insecurity is breaking the habit of comparing yourself to others. Not knowing others, it is extremely foolish to believe that everything is better with them than with you. You can only compare yourself with yourself in the past, which is very effective for the formation of adequate self-esteem. You can write down the slightest achievements, exploits, successful completion of actions, acquired skills, etc. in a special notebook. This will help get rid of unnecessary self-criticism and develop the ability to notice your strengths, not weaknesses.
Step 3
Self-love is an important quality for inner harmony, which is inherent in a self-confident person. You need to love yourself with all its pluses and minuses, "cockroaches in the head" and flaws in appearance. After all, until you love yourself, it will be difficult for others to love you. Accept yourself for who you are, and do not look back at the opinions of others about you. There will be a lot of people in life who will be sure that they know what is best for you, but you should not trust them unconditionally. Be yourself, show your exclusivity and do not think who and what will say about you.
Step 4
It is also important to learn how to make decisions and be responsible for their consequences. Everyone is afraid to make a mistake, taught by bitter experience or imposed fears, but without mistakes it is impossible to become wise and experienced. So show courage, determination, perseverance in achieving your goals. Even if you make a mistake, you will have a reason for reflection and a model of behavior for the future. After analyzing them and drawing conclusions, you should forget about past mistakes, and not dwell on them, year after year experiencing the same unpleasant emotions.
Step 5
Insecure people often cannot interact with the environment: they do not defend their point of view, blindly agree with more authoritative people, do not understand the feelings of the interlocutor and cannot convey their thoughts to him, they are embarrassed to express their opinion, cannot make friends, etc. To overcome these problems, you need to learn to communicate, and in practice. Set goals for the day, week, month and achieve them. The goals can be different: from the task of asking a random passer-by to call to inviting a pretty person to dance.
Step 6
Surround yourself with positive and happy people. People are always a reflection of their surroundings, because everyone attracts others like themselves. Therefore, communication with self-confident individuals, friendly participation and support from them, positive emotions from interacting with friends and acquaintances will help to become more confident. Thoughts are material. When you think about success, discuss it, share your plans, success rushes to you. When all your thoughts and words are about possible failure, be prepared to face obstacles on the way to achieving your goal.
