The past is different. Sometimes memories cause joyful and bright feelings, and sometimes - dissatisfaction with oneself and with decisions made once. Years may pass, but some actions, words, or actions continue to pop up in memory, causing pain and regret.
Instructions
Step 1
According to psychologists, mistakes on the path of life are not only inevitable, but also necessary - for the formation of a full-fledged ability to develop, as well as personal growth. In other words, as the well-known popular wisdom says, "to step on the same rake" will have to be exactly until the necessary experience is learned. It is only important to learn to get up after a fall, having mastered the art of learning from your mistakes.
Step 2
First of all, you need to decide what can be considered a "mistake". This is usually the name for actions that later cause regret, disappointment, shame, and even pain. Sometimes people tend to blame themselves for causing trouble and trouble to others. It is not easy to go through the wrong steps that led to dramatic changes in life, for example, illness or injury, large material losses or imprisonment. However, you can put up with them.
Step 3
For this, firstly, it is important to realize that the past cannot be changed. No way. And secondly, you need to force yourself to stop “sawing sawdust”, simulating various situations from the category “if I acted differently that day, then …”. Psychologists insist: the past should not interfere with the present and the future. Therefore, if you can’t come to terms on your own, and thoughts of a mistake continue to torment a person, you should seek help from a qualified specialist. Believers can find a way out by visiting the temple. The Orthodox, in particular, experiencing the burden of past mistakes, have the opportunity to lighten their souls in confession.
Step 4
It happens that a woman who refused to marry, and subsequently deeply repentant and considers it a mistake, later arranged her life even more successfully. Thus, it was not her mistake at all. Refusal to marry only became a link on the way to a new acquaintance, which ended in a happy marriage and the birth of beautiful children.
Step 5
As the famous romantic heroine used to say: "I'll think about it tomorrow." To persuade yourself to postpone thoughts about the mistakes of the past, replacing them with reflections on current affairs - and until the attitude to this or that unpleasant episode does not change. Indeed, with age, accumulating life experience, people often tend to overestimate many situations, words or actions. In particular, some "mistakes", allegedly committed by them sometime, are perceived in a completely different way. Sometimes such troubles were simply necessary, providing protection against more serious problems. It is worth once again turning to folk wisdom: “there was no happiness, but misfortune helped” - this is the best fit for such processes.
