Human changes are possible, there are ways to correct habits, to correct character, but it is only difficult to do it from the outside. The person himself decides that he needs to become different. But it's not always worth making such a transformation for the sake of other people.
Instructions
Step 1
A person is constantly changing, external circumstances, knowledge, work correct his views. Every 2-3 years a person becomes different. This is not difficult to verify, remember your thoughts and desires 5 years ago, and you will understand that now everything is not quite so. But this process goes gradually and imperceptibly, but it can be significantly accelerated. This can be done by internal urge or external pressure.
Step 2
By entering into a relationship, people change. They begin to adapt to their partner, try to please him in the early stages of meetings, and then adapt to life together. This will have to be done, since adults are used to living in their own way, and the appearance of a couple changes everything. But usually two people are involved in concessions, each correcting his behavior. You need to get used to habits, organize a common life, choose time for communication and joint projects. You need to change for the sake of loved ones, but here it is important not to lose yourself. If your partner refuses to do something, does not seek to adapt, but requires it from you, you should think about it and discuss it.
Step 3
Human changes occur at the birth of a child and are almost impossible to resist. You have to adjust your time, your habits to the schedule and the needs of the baby. This transformation is natural, it affects mom more than dad, but it always changes the foundations of the family. All these changes are irreversible, for example, the desire to take care of the child, the desire to save him from trouble will remain with you for life. You need to change in such a situation, but again without losing yourself. It is important to leave room for your own hobbies, for caring for your body, for relaxation.
Step 4
When else do you need to change for the sake of others? When others give good advice, for example, they require discipline, punctuality, professionalism. It is important not to protest right away, but to think about how useful and relevant these changes will be. At work, they may require many qualities, but their acquisition will only benefit, help career growth, and improve the attitude of the team towards you. You need to be able to listen to the requirements and evaluate them correctly, there are things that should not be resisted.
Step 5
When is it not worth changing? When you are invited to completely forget about your individuality, when the imposed rules deprive you of the opportunity to self-actualize. If you are being forced to become a different person, do not agree. Corrections are great, but reshaping the personality is impossible, and even more so if it does not bring joy, brings suffering and nervousness.
