Man is a social being, so he is forced to communicate with other people. Throughout life, every day you have to find a common language with someone. Agree, we enjoy conversations with pleasant people. How do you become the one with whom you really want to communicate?
Showing sincere interest in the other person
Everyone knows about this rule, but when talking about it, they often forget about it, starting to talk about their problems. Believe me, it will be interesting for a rare interlocutor to hear about your troubles, since he has a lot of his own. Keep your own complaints to a minimum and listen to the interlocutor, listen to him, while showing interest (as a last resort, pretending to be interested). Do you also not want to plunge headlong into other people's problems? However, this technique is great for helping to establish contact with a new person. Therefore, at first, you can be patient for the sake of a trusting relationship with the interlocutor.
Show that you do not just listen, but hear the other person.
Does it happen that you listen to other people's outpourings with half an ear, while thinking about completely different things? But the interlocutor intuitively feels whether you listen to his words or not. To make him understand that you hear and understand what he is talking about, nod from time to time, ask the interlocutor again, clarify, insert your short comments.
Your speech is simple and clear
Even if you are an intelligent and well-read person who understands everything and everyone and has read hundreds of smart books in your entire life, speak with your interlocutor in a simple and understandable language. You should not insert different terms into speech, wanting to appear even smarter. Such tricks may come in handy during an interview, but in everyday life they are superfluous. A person who does not understand what you are telling him may well feel uncomfortable and even harbor resentment. Who would want to communicate with a walking encyclopedia, while feeling much more stupid?
You are friendly and polite
A warm smile, kind words, politeness will be pleasant to any person. Remaining always friendly and open, you yourself will notice how people are drawn to you in order to once again exchange a few phrases or spend time together.
