For some reason, in society, it is believed that the maternal instinct is something that engulfs a girl almost immediately upon reaching childbearing age. But this happens much less often than people think. The maternal instinct does not wake up immediately, but often gradually, which is completely normal.
Instructions
Step 1
Pregnancy and motherhood are often frightening, which is completely natural. After all, this time will be very different from everything that happened to you before: there will be responsibility for another person, who at first will completely depend on you. While there are books, lectures, and courses on motherhood that can help, it still cannot be taught until it comes. Nevertheless, it is believed that the maternal instinct will help out a woman and help her make the right decision in any case. But what if he doesn't wake up? The belly is already big enough, but there is still no instinct. It happens that childbirth has already passed, but the woman still does not feel drawn by this instinct.
Step 2
The fact that the maternal instinct sometimes does not wake up immediately is completely normal. It is a biological phenomenon, natural and natural. But people in their way of life have become very far from nature, so many natural things are mixed with cultural prejudices or are completely lost against their background. The maternal instinct is one of the main features of the development of mankind, without which it would not have survived. Even if he is still asleep, over time he will wake up in you, be sure.
Step 3
It happens that the maternal instinct in a woman is so strong that she feels that she will become a mother even before she sees the result of a pregnancy test. In other women, tenderness and love for the unborn baby appears during pregnancy. Still others only after childbirth understand that this is their child, at the same time they begin to realize how deeply they love this creature, which burst into their life with the first cry.
Step 4
There are also women who are already returning home from the hospital, but still do not feel the "promised" maternal love for the baby. The responsibilities of caring are burdensome, sometimes even depression is imminent. It is very difficult to admit to others that you do not have much love for a lump that always requires attention and crying, and this plunges into even more stress. In this situation, to begin with, stop reproaching yourself and thinking that something is wrong with you. Are you okay.
Step 5
If the maternal instinct itself does not wake up, try to focus on communication with the child. Usually, the strongest feelings for the baby arise precisely during contact with him. Talk to him, smile at him, drink lullabies, read books that you love to him, listen to music together. Try to involve him in your business, so that he is simply present with them, while constantly communicating with the baby, put him next to you at night. Soon you will see that you feel the baby much better, you understand what to do with him, that he has become a close person to you. Sometimes the awakening of the maternal instinct is facilitated by the special attention that the young mother pays to caring for the baby, for example, if he is sick.
