A pregnant woman is looking forward to the arrival of her baby. She buys him beautiful things, listens to the beats in the tummy, eats right. But often the expectant mother does not know what awaits her after the birth of the child.
During pregnancy, the life ahead seems cheerful and joyful, the baby is sweet and calm. A woman dreams of how her husband will help her, imagines how great it will be to walk and play with the child, and at night the whole family will peacefully snore after a hard day.
In fact, everything is a little different: the child cries day and night, constantly demands breast, the husband disappears at work, and at home there are a lot of unfulfilled tasks, which have increased significantly with the appearance of the crumbs. Against the background of such stress, women develop postpartum depression, and the child may begin to evoke only bad emotions. How to awaken the maternal instinct in yourself, how to love your baby?
Sound sleep and calmness
During the first months, the baby often wakes up at night, but in order to avoid bad mood and well-being, the mother needs to get enough sleep. Do not try to do all the chores around the house, they still cannot be redone. Better sleep with your baby during the day. This will give you strength, energy will be restored, and problems will no longer seem insurmountable.
At night, put your baby to sleep with you, this not only brings you closer, but also gives you the opportunity to sleep.
If you feel yourself losing your temper, leave the child with dad or grandmother and take a walk in the fresh air. So you will calm down, pull yourself together, and during your absence you will have time to miss your baby and want to spend time with him.
Transfer some of the household responsibilities to your husband, and try to devote more time to your child. The less he cries, the more you will admire him, be touched, observe his behavior, and this will greatly help develop the maternal instinct.
Communication with the child
Establish breastfeeding, while sucking, an emotional connection is restored. It is important for a baby to feel his mother, to know that she is there, so he will behave much calmer, cry less, smile more often, which will undoubtedly affect your mood.
Carry your baby more often. You can use a sling so your hands are free and you can do some urgent chores around the house.
It is important for a baby to be constantly close to his mother and to feel her warmth and tenderness, and such closeness will help a woman, in the absence of a maternal instinct, to wake him up. Touch the child all the time, stroke him on the head and arms, examine the facial features, determining who he looks more like. This will evoke positive emotions, happiness and joy.
And in any case, do not neglect the advice and help of older people - your mother or mother-in-law. They will take care of the baby, and you can take a break from him, take time for yourself, go shopping. After a great time, you will be able to devote more time to your child, give him all your love, which will undoubtedly help the development of the maternal instinct.
