Pity destroys life. To stop feeling sorry for yourself, learn to emphasize personal advantages over others. Write down everything that should please you from the point of view of common sense. Remember that you are the one and only, and therefore deserve not sympathy, but respect.
Instructions
Step 1
Self-pity has a devastating effect on human health. From excessive compassion for personal failures, disorders of the digestive system occur (from gastritis to ulcers); asthenic-apathetic depression; vegetative dystonia and decreased immunity. Consequences: lethargy in the limbs, drops of cold sweat, heart palpitations, low performance, unfounded fears and lack of desire to live.
Step 2
Take a blank piece of paper, a pencil and write down everything that theoretically should please you today. The list will include past events, natural phenomena, objects you saw, finally.
Step 3
For example, in the morning outside the window the air temperature is +18 degrees. Should this, by default, please you? Write it down. A neighbor noticed that the tires on the wheels of your car are cool. My sister got an A at school. At work, you were given an award. The kids loved the dinner.
Step 4
The secret of the “With a sheet” technique is that the smaller the items entered are in importance, the faster you will get rid of the habit of feeling sorry for yourself. What you perceive today as compassionate and painful, tomorrow will seem humiliating, and the day after tomorrow will cause a wave of indignation in you.
Step 5
Focus on what you already have, but those around you would like to own it. Don't you have anything that a familiar bum would like to borrow? A computer? Child? A car? Education?
Step 6
Repeat the exercise until you enjoy it. Its goal: you must realize that misfortunes are pursuing not those people who have little, but those who have little. This is a hard truth that needs to be looked in the eye. Study, and soon pity will be replaced by wisdom.
Step 7
The last condition: take a sheet of paper and start treating pity immediately. Right now. This is exactly the case when "it's better to see once"
