Self-pity manifests itself when a person sees the cause of his failures not with his own actions, but with a combination of circumstances, bad luck or the behavior of other people. If you see yourself in such an attitude to what is happening, it's time to take responsibility for your life and move from sad reflections to active actions.
Understand yourself
Consider how your self-pity manifests itself. Perhaps it takes the form of envy, and you hate the more successful person instead of working and developing. Thinking that another person is in better circumstances is just a mental trap. You yourself can create favorable conditions for yourself, you just have to stop feeling sorry for your own person and start acting.
Maybe self-pity is a consequence of low self-esteem. You probably have positives, so why not focus on them? Love and accept yourself, then you will feel stronger and more confident. Don't be afraid to voice your own opinion. Learn to present yourself correctly. Develop and improve your professional level.
Do not look for excuses, better engage in searching for reasons that something does not suit you in life. Weak people who feel sorry for themselves position themselves as victims. Thus, they disclaim responsibility for what is happening around. Realize that it is you, first of all, who create your own reality, and it depends on you what it will be.
Work on yourself
Change your position in life. Once you realize that you are not happy with a particular moment, do not whine or complain. Think about how to change the prevailing circumstances, and begin to act. Take a proactive stance and fight for your happiness.
Resist the temptation to be lazy instead of moving towards your goal, and then grieve about what you so wanted, but did not get. Some individuals subconsciously seize on any opportunity to evade responsibility, not to start some difficult business. Become more determined and don't mess around instead of working.
Do not be afraid of someone else's opinion and the possibility of error. Perhaps it is fear that keeps you from acting. The other person's point of view is sometimes worth considering. But one cannot value her above his own opinion. Don't let fears about “what people say” get in the way of creating your future. You can get rid of the fear of making a mistake by gathering additional information about the business you need to accomplish, thorough preparation, and building your competence in the area you need.
Try to focus on the positive things in life. Anyone who sees bad in everything will find a reason for self-pity. Learn to appreciate all the good things that you have. Think how many people are deprived of the benefits and opportunities that you have. This is the only reason why you have no moral right to complain about fate, to complain and feel sorry for yourself.
