There has always been such a problem as low self-esteem in people. It arises, as a rule, due to violations in the psychological portrait of the personality. To get rid of such a serious and significant problem, you need to resort to certain techniques.
In prehistoric times, the ancestors of people had so-called communities, tribes, various small gatherings of people that united them and helped to survive. A certain member of the group always had a rough picture of how to communicate with other individuals, so as not to be expelled, not to be judged by others.
At that time it was vital, it was just necessary to understand primitive psychology. Our ancestors tried to avoid conflicts in order to keep the community in a favorable state.
All our modern fears and complexes often go back to those times, we, one way or another, unconsciously compare ourselves with others. This is done to understand whether they are stronger or weaker than us. This process takes place unconsciously, unnoticed by us.
It follows that when meeting a person who is "stronger" - more status, the body feverishly begins to produce cortisol - a stress hormone. Instincts tell us - there is no need to conflict, argue with this individual. This is how the fear of dating works.
The opposite situation occurs when we meet a person who is equal to us in social status, or below us. Serotonin is produced - the hormone of pleasure. Such a person begins to associate with pleasant feelings. Therefore, people build their environment on the basis of subconscious reactions, start relationships with those who do not surpass them in any parameters.
In the modern world, this system is completely outdated. There will be no meeting with a rich, intelligent and talented person to act to the detriment. It's okay to feel confident with people like that, nothing else. It is necessary to suppress the animal instincts that go with us through the millennia.
Soviet, post-Soviet education and upbringing instills in us all these irrelevant rules from the very childhood. From here, thousands of identical, insecure people appear who are afraid to take on a new business, to leave their comfort zone.
How to fight?
The main decision is to raise your subconscious status, to stop regularly lowering your own self-esteem. It is necessary to work out deep-seated beliefs, reshape the neural connections that have been established in people for many years. This is not the easiest thing to do, but the first step is to turn to techniques such as self-acceptance.
Develop a new habit, stop procrastinating, approach people at various events, and get carried away with psychology. The main "trick" is to understand on a psychological level how it works, you will read people like an open book, in this case, there is hardly anything left of your low self-esteem.
