“Accept me as I am” is a fairly common phrase in the everyday life of people together. But, unfortunately, not every person is ready to put up with the shortcomings of the other and indulge his whims. Interpersonal relationships are, first of all, a compromise between your personal desires and the needs of your loved one.
Study yourself
Before developing ingenious strategies, reading the textbooks on psychoanalysis, understand for yourself what exactly is wrong with you, what flaws are hidden in your character.
To do this, conduct a kind of survey of your friends, family and friends on the topic of negative traits of your willful disposition and unbridled temperament. Try to find out from them what irritates others in you, whether you have, in their opinion, strengths and weaknesses. Perhaps what you consider to be the norm of behavior, for most of the people around you, seems blatant arrogance or immorality. These habits must be eliminated immediately.
When the suitable material is collected, record everything that happened on paper. Do not try to hide, underestimate or conceal something, try to look at yourself objectively, with someone else's eyes, as if from the outside. This will be the first step towards further transformation.
Use the advice of a qualified professional. To understand what type and kind of character you have, conduct several conversations with a psychologist who can get to the bottom of your problem and suggest ways to solve it.
Motivation is the key to change
Think about what advantages the new "I" will bring you, because character change is a very difficult and long path that can only be overcome by a person with developed willpower. Decide for yourself how much you need such metamorphoses, whether the game is worth the candle.
Sometimes a person blames his character for his problems, but this is not always the right approach. Sometimes the reasons for failures are complexes imposed by modern society or acquired in deep childhood.
Motivation is important in the process of breaking character. If a changed nature helps to find a more prestigious job, become more successful, and improve relationships with family and friends, then the transformation process will proceed faster - you will have a good incentive.
The next step is visualization
Constantly keep in mind and mentally reproduce new traits of the future character. Without this procedure, you will fall back to where you started. If you do not know what exactly you want, if there is no clearly defined, which you need to strive for, then it is impossible to achieve anything. It is necessary to unambiguously represent the model that should become reality.
Let's say no to copying and imitation
Most people want to change their character only in order to adapt to someone, be it a boss, parents or a significant other, to somehow please them, but at the same time they do not think about themselves.
If your colleague is more successful, this does not mean that you need to adopt his demeanor, gestures, or some tricks in communication. Each person is unique in their own way. Everyone has a talent that needs to be unleashed in the right place at the right hour.
As you strive to improve your character, be careful not to acquire new, hitherto unknown, bad habits.
Improve yourself, and do not copy someone else's character. Develop spiritually: read books, be kinder, think about others, and not just about yourself.
