An attempt to directly change the character of another person is a thankless task. Even if you are driven by good intentions, negativity is provided in return. And this is not surprising. In general, it is difficult to change, and not on your own, all the more you do not want to. What if the nature of those with whom you have to communicate does not suit you?
Instructions
Step 1
Change yourself. Whatever one may say, but you will have to start with yourself: since you do not like something, then, in the end, this is your problem. If possible, change your attitude to the situation. Maybe you're just being overly critical or measuring the wrong way. Go ahead - think about what in your worldview causes such behavior of others. And try to change your character.
Step 2
Start with your habits. No wonder they say: "You sow a habit - you reap a character." Start small, move gradually, and soon you will notice the first changes. It will be easier to work further, and the result will be more noticeable. The phasing of actions and their regularity, control and self-discipline do wonders.
Step 3
Praise yourself for positive dynamics. Even if it seems to you that everything is going too slowly. Be aware of your accomplishments. Disbelief in oneself, despondency, excessive criticism and self-criticism - all this can kill any undertaking.
Step 4
Change your approach. And yet, as far as those around you are concerned, the same rules apply.
Gradual changes coming from little things, regular work and praise for a positive result.
The husband is inattentive and this is expressed, for example, in the fact that he comes home late from work? Calmly tell him about it and ask him not to do this again. When he arrives a little earlier than usual, thank him, tell him how important it is to you. Surely he will be pleased. And I want to repeat and strengthen positive emotions.
Step 5
Mark the nearest growth zone. People strive for development, this is normal. Let the person see the next step, even if the step is not too big, and the need for it is not in doubt. Then your ward will want to take this step.
Step 6
Don't try to change everything at once. The load must be dosed, and it is better to start with the little things. Changing minor habits can lead to a change in character and even outlook.
