We are all unique individuals. However, there is a trait that unites people. Almost everyone knows what they really want. He can even see ways to achieve his goals. But, possessing such information, a person does not take any action at all. Why don't we do what we want?
We refuse to do what we want. And many have encountered this at least once in their lives. Over time, self-disappointment appears. We begin to blame our willpower for the fact that it simply does not exist. This leads to the emergence of uncertainty and indecision. So what prevents us from being successful in realizing our own desires?
Banal fear
Perhaps the person is simply afraid. Fear can make you move, do something, realize your desires. But it also has the opposite effect. He is able to slow down even if an ingenious plan has been drawn up or a smart idea has been invented.
A person is simply afraid to make a mistake. He does not want to face failures, criticism from the people around him, ridicule. Out of fear, he abandons his own dream.
What do you need to know about in such a situation?
- Absolutely all people are afraid. But at the same time, there are always those who move towards the dream in spite of everything.
- Fear is a guideline that will indicate what needs to be refined and corrected in oneself.
- Fear must be learned to conquer.
- In most cases, fear is based on false beliefs. It is necessary to find limiting attitudes and get rid of them. If it does not work out on your own, it is recommended to seek help from a psychologist.
Craving for excellence
Why don't we do what we want? The reason may lie in perfectionism. Because of the desire to do everything perfectly, we are able to completely abandon the dream. In most cases, it is better to make mistakes than not take any action at all.
A perfectionist is an inner critic who is always unhappy. The perfect result for him simply does not exist.
To start acting in such a situation, you need to identify criteria for yourself by which you can understand that you have achieved the desired result. Specificity should be visible in your actions in order to calm the inner perfectionist.
Or maybe it's just the wrong desire
Why don't we do what we want? Very often, as an excuse, you can hear that it is just laziness. But it doesn't really exist. Laziness hides the usual reluctance. Perhaps you just do not want to realize your desires.
Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to understand whether these are true desires or they were imposed by society. Ultimately, either implement them or refuse. The main thing is not to keep it to yourself.
A few more reasons
- We constantly compare ourselves to other people. Against the background of their success, our desires may seem worthless. Accordingly, there is no need to implement them.
- Lots of other things to do. Perhaps because of the work, there is simply not enough time for the realization of desires. In such a situation, you need to do planning. Have a clear timetable for your activities. Find a place for desires in it.
- Constant search. In some cases, we do not begin to realize desires, because it seems to us that we have not yet collected all the information, we have not received enough knowledge. In this situation, you just need to start acting, while doing training.
- Opinions of other people. All information has been collected, the plan is planned, the actions are calculated, but we do not proceed with the implementation. Why? We may be worried about the opinions of other people, their mistakes, recommendations, reviews. This is stupid. It is best to ask for people's opinions when desires have already been realized.
