Each individual needs an individual time frame to "recover" from parting, and during this time a person experiences an acute phase, and the return of hopes, and the desire for revenge, and the ease of liberation from a heavy psychological burden.
Instructions
Step 1
To soften the shock. Someone prefers to wait out the most poignant and dreary time, overeating in chocolate and watching soap operas, someone playing Internet toys for hours or surfing YouTube in search of love songs. This is normal, but up to a point. It's okay if such a period lasts from three days to weeks to three weeks. But if it drags on, you need to include willpower and pride: "I'm too good to be so smeared." Depression must mature in order to move into the next phase, when the interest in life wakes up, and the person tries to comprehend what happened.
Step 2
Give energy outlet. When parting, the unhappy lover is inclined to fall into melancholy, hate himself or others, and shift the blame for what happened to others. This is also a form of depression, but it needs to be controlled. Suppressing negative thoughts, driving them into the subconscious is not worth it. If your heart hurts, then you need to admit it and feel sorry for yourself. But at this time it is better to be like yoga, tai chi, qigong. Gymnastics for the body will calm the mind and give "endorphins" - natural hormones of happiness and the best antidepressant. If everything is done correctly, then one day after training a question will arise in my head: "Why am I, in fact, killing myself like that?" Life is too good for tears!
Step 3
Go out to people. Love gives a feeling of emotional comfort, the ability to speak out your feelings, your inner world. Many lovers become so obsessed with each other that they lose friends. And after parting, they find themselves in a vacuum. Therefore, it will be useful to focus on who needs your help, do charity work, sign up for volunteers. Warm emotions, tenderness, gratitude will help to cope with the feeling of loneliness. And you can get the usual norm of communication in a new company. It will be very useful to master a new hobby, study languages, and finally make your own website. A new circle of acquaintances and interests will supplant memories of a former friend.
Step 4
Turn everything upside down. A month and a half after parting (and for someone even earlier), it is worth doing the following exercise: write down in a column all the negative that brought the collapse of love, and next to it - draw positive conclusions. For example, "I felt lonely for two weeks" - "But now I am a level 80 elf, I reviewed all the melodramas and threw all the trash out of my room." "He betrayed me" - "He gave me an experience that will save me from a more dangerous situation." We have no idea that we are benefiting from the breakup.
Step 5
Understand what is happening to you. Longing for love is akin to poisoning. If you get sick and continue to eat poisoned mushrooms, a lethal outcome is possible. It is much smarter to throw out the mushrooms, take a sorbent that draws out toxins from the body and lie down. So it is with a sense of revenge. It destroys the mind and soul.
