For some reason, it is believed that a husband cannot rape his wife. This implies that in marriage, a woman does not even have the right to personal safety! But there are many cases of rape by husbands of their wives.
Rape. Why did this happen?
Rape is often associated with beatings - many women who were beaten were also raped by their husbands. However, marriage is not slavery, and there is no love in rape, there is only aggression in its purest form.
Tense, difficult relationships between spouses, as well as some gynecological problems, can provoke sexual coldness and decreased libido in women. Men do not have such problems, for them sex is pleasure and relaxation. If a woman resists, screams (even in pain) - this can excite him so that he is no longer able to control himself and simply takes the woman by force. However, any sexual intercourse without the woman's consent can be called rape.
Russian women are extremely patient. Because of children, housing, fear of being left alone, they are ready to endure assault and violence from their husbands, which only aggravates the problem. It is also widely believed that rape of the wife simply cannot happen, the husband simply takes what belongs to him by right.
Unfortunately, it is not customary in Russian law to file an application and initiate a criminal case if the husband has raped. Although, for example, in Japan and the UK, rape is a serious crime, and it doesn't matter if a stranger committed an act of violence or a spouse.
How to live on?
After the violence from her husband happened, there are only two ways out: leave or stay. Most women stay in the family and amuse themselves with hopes that this will never happen again. But in order not to happen again, you need to get out of the role of "victim". Make it clear to your husband that this behavior will not get away with him just like that. Move away from him, show that you are not happy with this relationship. Although the chances that everything will turn out well in a relationship is, frankly, small. The very fact of violence suggests that the husband does not respect and does not love his wife. Do not blame yourself or think that you are not worthy of love. Do not engage in self-criticism, stress can cause various diseases, including oncology.
Do not keep all your worries to yourself, do not hesitate to cry. Talk about what happened to a loved one, such as a friend. If there are no close people, you can go to a psychologist or throw out your feelings and thoughts on some suitable forum on the Internet.
Self-esteem drops dramatically in women who have survived violence, their bodies seem unclean, and men are dirty, lustful "animals." Remember that this state will pass; it usually takes at least a year to experience and "digest" such a psychological trauma.
