According to psychologists, it will take an average woman 2 to 4 years to forget her ex-husband. Of course, all situations are individual, but there is still a certain period of adaptation after a divorce. How can you make it less painful? First of all, you should not be limited to yourself and your grief. In addition, there are a number of recommendations to help you overcome depression after a divorce.
Necessary
In order to help yourself on your own, you need desire and great willpower
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to sever all ties with the ex-spouse. Change the phone number, try not to communicate with his friends and colleagues. Ideally, it is better not to see each other at all, but if this is difficult to achieve, then try to limit communication.
Try not to be in places that give rise to memories, and also not to communicate with people who seek to return you to the past.
Step 2
Find new interests. Ask your friends and acquaintances for help. Try to take absolutely all of your time. Go to a trade fair or cafe, embroidery or extreme sports.
You can go headlong into work.
However, take some time to care for yourself. Remember that you are a woman and must look the part. Shopping or working out in the gym can help you get rid of bad thoughts.
Change your hair or look. This will help you tune in to a new period in your life.
Step 3
If you can't get distracted in any way, then you should admit to yourself that you need a specialist consultation. Perhaps attendance at trainings or a psychotherapist. The main thing is not to self-medicate. Antidepressants and sleeping pills can only make the situation worse. If you want to relax, then take a massage course or take a relaxing bath.
If you are embarrassed to go to an appointment, then ask for help on the forum or call an anonymous psychological consultation.
Start a diary or start writing poetry. This will help to express all your feelings.
Step 4
In no case do not dig yourself, but do not blame only your ex-spouse for everything. Remember, most of the time, both sides are to blame for the breakup.
You should not constantly return to negative experiences, analyze your mistakes and let go of the situation. If you find yourself thinking about your ex, try to keep yourself busy with something that will allow you to relax and tune in to positive emotions.
