The hero of the series "Clinic" Dr. Cox once said: "All people are bastards, drenched with bastards, with a bastard filling inside!" Judging by the popularity of this phrase, many agree with him. Yes, people, especially loved ones, often disappoint, but it is impossible to live long in hatred. At some point, a person realizes that the properties of people are a projection of his own attitude towards them. And then you want to love everyone, so that the feeling becomes mutual.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to smile. Yes, yes, "share your smile and she will come back to you more than once." When it is impossible to withdraw to the side or to oneself, emotional responses, with rare exceptions, are always mirrored. In response to the cry, people raise their voices, after the crying they want to cry, get irritated next to the irritated. One can argue for a long time about the tension, servility and unnaturalness of the notorious "American smile", but the fact remains: initial contacts with random people in the West do not leave heaviness in the soul, while in Russia they prefer to be rude at first or assert themselves in some other way, but only then, having apologized, to improve relations.
Step 2
Always remember that in any life experience, you can be cruelly mistaken in people. Even if a hypothetical communication aggressor is really a bastard in life, it is better to remain human and save face than to be like him. Moreover, one should not succumb to the first impression, since under the feigned rudeness or repulsive looseness, the bright soul of a faithful friend or at least a good comrade can be hidden.
Step 3
Something good can be found in every person. Absolutely in everyone. Nazi Hitler was an excellent manager and was a good painter. A fan of bloody orgies, Nero was famous for his oratory, effectively fought against corruption and wrote good poetry. Many women would envy the wife of the maniac Chikatilo - for such exemplary non-drinking husbands in all centuries, almost queues lined up. This does not mean that you need to consider the extremes, but if the vital necessity brought you to a complex personality, there is no need to spoil your nerves, reflecting and focusing only on its negative features. Refer to the positive. What if a person seems so bad just because no one has ever said a kind word to him?
Step 4
Remember that the most annoying thing about people is what you don't like about yourself. With no exceptions. That is why the work of psychologists and psychoanalysts drags on for many months - a person, suddenly seeing himself from the outside "in all its glory", the way others see and know him, almost always becomes inadequate: he becomes horrified or falls into heavy despondency, maybe become aggressive and uncontrollable, or even attempt suicide. It takes a long time to prepare for reconciliation with oneself and the ability to work on the mistakes of patients. With this awareness, begin to pay attention to the actions and traits of others that are especially disturbing to you. Work on yourself, and very soon you will notice that people are not as bad as they seemed to you before. Simply because you have changed and become better.
Step 5
Charity and volunteering, given the right attitude, will also serve well to develop love for people. At first, you may have to force yourself to help those in need for free, especially if you have not experienced this before. But any habit sooner or later becomes part of the character. Develop a habit of giving without wanting anything in return, and it won't be long before your friends and acquaintances, in response to someone's request to describe you in one word, will confidently say: "He is a philanthropist!"
