Fear is fear of strife. Panic at the sight of mice is unlikely to make your life difficult. But the fear of people can make it unbearable: after all, it is impossible to exist normally without communicating, without contacting others. You need to understand what gave rise to your fear of people, and begin to overcome it.
Very often the reason for such a fear comes from childhood: if you were offended by peers at school, teased and humiliated in the yard, then you had to withdraw into yourself, protect yourself from communication. And you still expect trickery from people, trouble. Also, many are afraid of criticism in their address, misunderstanding - this is due to low self-esteem, self-doubt. Having closed himself in his own shell from everyone, a person loses communication skills, does not know how to behave correctly in society. These problems only increase fear, a vicious circle arises that can be broken by forcing yourself to plunge into communication, like Baron Munchausen pulling himself out of the swamp of loneliness. Start the path to people with simple but very effective exercises. In any store, contact a consultant with a question about any product. Talk about the pros and cons of the product, discuss it from all sides, and then give up the purchase. So you will not only practice in communication, but also learn to express your opinion, insist on your choice. You can take the phone as an assistant: call any possible place, find out about the prices of tickets to the theater, cinema, about train timetables, conditions of employment. If it doesn't work out smoothly and slender right away, don't worry. After all, you can always end the conversation by hanging up. It is important here that you do not think about how you look, do not follow facial expressions, gestures - for a start, this is easier to communicate. On the street, ask passers-by what time it is, how to get somewhere or drive. Ask in detail, specify details. Strangers will only be pleased to provide you with a small service, and you will acquire the skills of everyday conversation, gradually you will feel that communication can be positive and bring joy. It is important to realize that people first of all think about themselves, how they look from the outside, and not at all about your precious person, they often feel insecure, shy - just like you. Try to come to their aid, conduct the conversation kindly, openly, interested - only, if possible, not feignedly, but from the heart. And the fear will gradually pass, new opportunities will open up in your personal life, in the professional sphere. If you feel that you cannot overcome fear of people alone, contact a specialist: psychologist, psychotherapist. He will help you understand the problem, find its causes and eliminate them.
