Each female representative will describe a tyrant man in about the same way - this is a gloomy and sullen type who is annoyed by any "wrong" movement or word. For the most part, girls sincerely cannot understand how their relative (friend, colleague) did not immediately see suspicious features in her gentleman, because she was with him around the clock, how did she not see a tyrant in him?
The answer is simple! Aggressive males are very cute at first glance. The bouquet and candy period with its standard program is excellent. They are incredibly charming and damn charming. And, according to psychologists, this is what should alert a woman. A person's positiveness in everything, as a rule, can be a signal that he is trying to hide his "black" nature. Aggressors are very good at controlling themselves in public. The mask of the "ideal man" falls only in the presence of very close people.
The saddest thing is that not all aggressors are prudently looking for a victim. Many of them really want a family. They behave honestly and correctly, which is very attractive. But he is afraid of losing his beloved, becoming a laughingstock for everyone, his hidden self-doubt pushes him to make his beloved dependent on him. He gradually convinces that the girl is not so good, that he is the best in her life. Without him, she will disappear, and now the most true thing for her is to please him in everything. And she does so, because she has come under the influence completely. But he still won't be satisfied. He continues to "cultivate" perfection for himself, and the methods are getting tougher. He motivates his aggression by the fact that he teaches how to live, and she, so bad, does not understand anything. Where are the roots of this aggression, maybe this is the scenario of the parents, or maybe the former relationship, or is he just crazy and dear to him to the doctor? But the result is the same - a woman with a wounded body and soul.
In order not to deal with the causes of aggression later, you must learn to calculate the tyrant in little things.
Past life
You need to pay close attention to what he says about the ex, be it girls, friends, or relatives. If all "former relatives" become enemies, if all of them, according to him, are wolves in sheep's clothing, you should not try to prove to him that you are definitely a "sheep" that you will not betray. His world is filled with enemies. And you, too, will become such, if you part with him, you will be an enemy a priori.
Common interests
It must be remembered that for the tyrant there are only his interests. Any other point of view is perceived with hostility or ridiculed. And it doesn't matter if someone's feelings are hurt or not.
Mood stability
A mood with sharp jumps is characteristic of such a person. Moreover, there is a need for people nearby to adjust to it. Just fun, laughter, and now something has happened, some trifle, and there is a mask of coldness on his face. The girl tries to cheer, stir up, but in response, the same expression on her face, then until the girl's smile leaves her face. And then the continuation of the "game". Try to change the rules, and you will surely find out how a man "blows off steam".
The measure of remorse
We all admit aggression in our lives, shout, bang on the table, and so on. It's always ugly, but it's usually okay - because, in essence, aggression is a defensive reflex. It is quite enough to apologize afterwards for your incontinence and explain the reason for your behavior. But if a person “crawls out of his skin” in his apologies, if he presents gifts even for the smallest anger, it is worthwhile to be wary and slow down the rapprochement with such an individual, at least until the next such moment when he gets out of the box.
