If earlier it was believed that the accumulation of negative emotions in oneself leads to poor health, and therefore it is necessary to pour them out in the form in which they are in you, now scientists are increasingly talking about the importance of self-control. And this makes sense, because intemperance can irrevocably ruin relationships between people.
Instructions
Step 1
Become the master of your emotions. If you find yourself in a difficult stressful situation, first of all, you need to calm down. To do this, slowly take at least ten breaths and exhalations. Thus, you will bring your inner state into balance, you will be able to analyze what is happening calmly and objectively.
Step 2
The simplest and most common rule is this: if you cannot change the situation, try to change your attitude towards it. Throw in the future and imagine if this problem will worry you in a week or a month. If you forget about it every other day, so why spoil your nerve cells and only increase the negative.
Step 3
Think about the place in life of the ongoing conflict. For example, such a trifle as rudeness in public transport or the rudeness of a work colleague - is it so important for your life path, for your realization and your happiness? The word "your" is key. Distinguish between yourself and those around you, because most often their aggression is caused by their own problems, not yours.
Step 4
Find something positive about the problem situation. Each phenomenon has both a negative and a positive side, so if your boss or friend is not doing well, maybe you should think about changing your environment.
Step 5
Sometimes it is better to remain silent than to utter a lot of unpleasant words that, at the moment of reflection, have little to do with reality. After working with your breath, it is better to say that now you are not ready to negotiate, you need to think and weigh everything.
Step 6
If an argument is nevertheless inevitable, try not to get personal, but direct criticism to the phenomenon. Of course, in the process of an argument, irritation can be born on a person who has the opposite opinion, so control yourself and stop in time.
Step 7
Our body is directly related to our mental state, so physical relaxation will help to calm down and dissolve negativity. Tighten your body except for the head area, and then completely relax, thinking that by doing so you are relieving yourself of all the burden of problems. Yoga will help you, which teaches you how to control yourself, your body and emotions. Just a few sessions a week, and in the next stressful situation, you will surely show yourself calm and confident.
