In these chaotic times, it is quite difficult to remain calm and calm, no matter what happens. Maintaining composure and avoiding breakdowns in school is not taught. But how many negative situations in their lives people could avoid if they had the ability to suppress their fear, aggression and other antisocial emotions.
Necessary
Audiobook "Managing emotions", I. O. Vagin, 2009
Instructions
Step 1
To start thinking constructively, you first need to learn to calm down. Think about whether this problem will worry you so much in a month, a year or five years. As soon as you feel that the oncoming wave of aggression and anger is subsiding, know that you are on the right path to taming your emotions. In addition, the next day, the outlook on the situation will change, it will not seem hopeless.
Step 2
A few simple manipulations will help to restrain the breakthrough of emotions. To avoid the urge to say something unpleasant to someone in the face, count mentally to ten. Control your breathing at this moment - it should remain even and calm. As long as you are silent, the degree of tension will subside, and the conflict will not develop. With unrestrained behavior, personal dislike can also be superimposed on the problem that has arisen. And this is already a signal that you have gone beyond the scope of the topic under discussion and are on the wrong path.
Step 3
Try to consider the cause of the storm of negative emotions from different angles. In the current state of affairs, try to find the pluses, because more often life experience consists of experienced stress, and not of happy moments.
Step 4
When quarreling, focus not on the personality of your opponent, but on the disputable situation that has arisen. If discontent only grows in you, express it, but do not go beyond the bounds of decency. It is best to postpone the conversation until later when you are ready to continue it in a more peaceful frame of mind.
Step 5
After the stressful situation has happened to you, it is important to completely relax. Please note: at the moment of irritation, the muscles of the body tense and remain in this state after some time, even if the conflict is in the past. To relax, tense the muscles of your entire body for three seconds, mentally imagining how you take a load and load it on your shoulders, then relax, as if you are throwing it off. Perform all actions smoothly.
