Sometimes it can be difficult to refuse a person, especially if he insists on your help. Sometimes a choice arises: to fulfill the request of a person, having received a lot of difficulties and problems, or to refuse and offend him.
Instructions
Step 1
If there is a likelihood of such a situation, think: why should the applicant be offended by the refusal. After all, they usually ask what people are not required to do. Therefore, it is stupid to be offended by a refusal. Sometimes it happens that someone has rendered a service and is waiting for a reciprocal step, and in fact this is a demand, out of politeness, clothed in a request. In this case, the situation is more complicated, and the best solution is not to fall into it, that is, not to accept services from a person to whom it will be difficult for you to repay one way or another. Just offer the person some other form of help. If he refuses, write it down for yourself and try to help in the future. And also draw conclusions so that you no longer get into unpleasant situations.
Step 2
More often than not, a person who asks for something too insistently is an ordinary manipulator. Serious services on his part were not and most likely will not be. Just the fact that you helped him once is a sufficient reason for him to turn to you again. And so on to infinity, kindness is punishable. Sometimes you do not want to explain the reasons for the refusal, and rightly so. This can give the person asking you a reason to argue, and it can make you lie, which is unpleasant. Only the investigator has the right to force you to delve into an explanation of your personal circumstances, and even then in a limited number of cases. So do not complicate your life - you decided to refuse, refuse without explaining anything in detail. Just tell me - I can't, that's enough.
Step 3
To mitigate the rejection, offer to help solve the problem differently. Say that you are happy to help, but cannot do as requested in this particular situation. But you can help in another way, and you will do it with pleasure. If the person asking you respects your time and effort, they won't be offended. And relationships with amateurs to solve problems at someone else's expense are not relationships that need to be really cherished.
