It would seem that it could be easier than refusing, but many often cannot do this, for example, for fear of offending another person. However, in this case, you risk losing yourself, while falling into dependence on the opinions of those around you.
Instructions
Step 1
The refusal will look softer if you pay attention to your interlocutor. For example, you can ask in more detail what exactly the interlocutor would like from you and regardless of whether you refuse the request or not, thank him for contacting you with such a proposal, and only then inform about your position.
Step 2
If you haven't yet come up with some reason to refuse to relieve stress, you can try to just play for time. For example, you might say that you need to check your weekly, spouse, or business partner for advice on whether you have any plans for the day. If you are forgiven for borrowing money, you can say that you first need to look at how much you have and so on.
Step 3
When reporting a refusal, give reasons for your position. For example, it may be the answer: “I'm sorry, but I have other plans for this particular day”, “I would be happy, but lately I have an incredible amount of work”. You can also say that lately you are too tired or that you are not doing what you are asked to do.
Step 4
In some cases, you can also refuse, referring to your habits. For example, it can be the phrase: "Sorry, I can't come, because every Sunday we are going to a family dinner."
Step 5
Not only talk about your rejection, but also show it with your non-verbal behavior. As you know, a person reads a greater percentage of information precisely at a non-verbal level, so in order to believe you and your decision, try to relax and straighten your shoulders, and speak calmly and confidently, without taking your eyes off the interlocutor.
Step 6
Listen to the other person's arguments and repeat what you said to him before. To show empathy, you can also tell the other person that you feel sorry for him or that he actually has a serious problem. And although you refuse him, there is no time to make excuses.
Step 7
And do not forget that you should not go to extremes and refuse everyone in everything. After all, the main thing is not whether you will prove to someone or not. It is much more important that you are the one who decides that you want to fulfill someone's request, and not someone else decides for you.
