Writing is a real battlefield, where the weapon is the word and the army is the imperishable manuscript. For every writer, creativity is an inviolable state, which he protects from any encroachment and values his creations, like his own children. And how to find an approach to such a colleague and not destroy in the future the creative union, which can develop into a successful literary project?
There is safety in numbers! This statement is a well-known truth. As in any other activity, successful creativity depends on the environment that is close to us. Very often, close people, colleagues, friends, relatives play a huge role in our success, and it would be foolish to refuse the support they provide for us.
What prevents you from starting a conversation?
Of course, having a famous and successful writer as a friend is a cherished dream for many authors. Such a friend will always help, prompt and direct you in the right direction. But how to make friends with your colleague, because there are so many stereotypes that have turned into impenetrable walls?
The most common ones are:
- they will laugh at you;
- no one will take you seriously;
- you are just starting your journey and are not interesting to anyone;
- you do not know what you will talk to them about;
- your works will begin to rule for themselves;
- steal your ideas;
- will become jealous and do you nasty things;
- these are your competitors, and they should hate you;
- they have a crown to heaven, etc.
If you approach the issue with such a worldview, then it is better not to make any attempts and, buried in your manuscripts, vegetate alone.
Of course, there are an incredible number of people in the world who are not suitable for you a priori. This is due to the rejection of this or that person at the energetic level. But, most likely, this is your emotional state, which includes complexes, ill will, envy, and negative thoughts.
Everything listed above is only in your head, and it must be urgently replaced with positive thoughts.
Laughter prolongs life
None of the authors will laugh at you if you sincerely want to start a conversation. Be more tolerant and don't rush in. Start by studying the personality of the author himself, his work, his hobbies. Otherwise, your attempts to make friends will look intrusive and insincere.
Real Purpose Opens Many Doors
If you decide to give your life to pen, then admit to yourself how ready you are for this. Is the path that some writer has chosen really suits you. Maybe you think it's so romantic. Or do you think that everyone can write and this is not a laborious process.
Decide what you really want. Based on your answers, look for a writer with whom your thoughts, goals and needs are similar. You will be treated with respect if you are serious about your business.
Sincerity, kindness, and support are key tools for a successful writer
Pay attention to how popular writers communicate with those around them. You will undoubtedly notice that the main thing in their communication is respect, support, understanding and acceptance. Moreover, a self-respecting writer will not show his stardom and arrogance, because every author is dear to every person, no matter who it is, the writer or the reader.
This is the environment that helps the creator to create masterpieces, because the writer lives for the sake of his readers and followers. And if you are afraid to seem uninteresting, prove yourself, read more books, start getting involved in sports, come up with some hobby.
To be honest, writing is so boring. The daily fading at the table and the clattering of the keys for an hour - this is how it looks from the outside. What could be interesting here? Nothing. But if you show your versatility, interest in you will increase hundreds of times.
Nobody needs other people's problems
You can find thousands of topics for communication, if only you carry positive energy. Don't complain about cruel fate, poor imagination, dull inspiration, blind editors, and nasty publishers. Who will be interested in listening to your whining, especially if you have a successful person in front of you, whose creative path is radically different from yours.
Most likely, all complaints will be perceived as an attempt to find a loophole for cooperation with the publisher. The writer will definitely not like this, because they are interested not in his work, but in his connections. Never complain. Show your best side. Prove that your work is worth the attention. Believe me, if your communication is sincere, then your writer friend will definitely put in a good word for you in front of his publisher.
Not all advice is worth heeding
If you are afraid that your works will begin to rule, dictating your opinion and forcing them to listen to it, do not show your work to anyone. In general, you should be grateful for the fact that a person took the time to your masterpiece and found some flaws in it. He spent the same time he could give his book, and you are also ungrateful.
If you think your option is much better than someone else's advice, just keep quiet. Make a note for yourself. Perhaps when you finish your draft completely and start editing, you will notice that in fact the advice was to the point and it is better to heed it. Give someone a chance and you will get much more in return.
Explore the issue of copyright protection
Afraid that your ideas will be stolen? Everything is simple here: do not talk about them at the initial stage. If you are bursting with joy or you need professional advice, then in this case you need to think about trusting the person you want to turn to. How decent he is, has he let you down at least once, what other colleagues say about him.
And maybe, having voiced your idea, you will find not just a person who will support you morally, but will also take his direct part in this project, increasing the chances of success several times. Again, here it is necessary to understand what exactly you want, since in this case the decision will have to be made by you.
Remember the commandments
Envy is the most disgusting feeling that can only arise in a person. It is because of him that so much blackness splashes out on our modern world. Do not be like envious people, let your soul be pure. Plant in her sincere joy for your colleague. Remember, everything in the Universe is interconnected, your deeds and thoughts will be rewarded according to merit.
If you think that other writers will become jealous of you, to some extent you will be right. This, unfortunately, happens all the time. Two friends become enemies just because the publisher appreciates your work, and not his rare nonsense. There is only one way here - to part with those people who wish you only a mediocre existence. Run from them. They will not bring you anything but disappointment.
One day a competitor will do you a great service
There is an opinion that writing is the same business, which means that there are competitors in it. If we consider creativity from this point of view, then you absolutely do not want to live. Therefore, treat other authors as ordinary colleagues who, just like you, are doing what they love.
As much as I would not like to compare creativity with business, but now creativity is the same element of trade, like any other market product. Of course, there is competition in writing. It is especially pronounced in those genres that are popular with readers. Fantasy, detective stories, romance novels, thrillers - whatever is currently the best-selling literature.
There is competition among writers, and it would be foolish to deny it. But try to approach this issue from a different angle. Find for yourself what will become your highlight. Build honest relationships with competitors and readers, be open, constantly learn new things, and develop your writing skills.
Every day the growth of writers is hundreds of times greater than it was yesterday. Previously, everyone read, but now only a few people read, but almost everyone writes. Therefore, look for yourself and do your business with all your heart.
All people are like people, and you are royalty
All people are different, which means that each of us has its own boundaries in relation to self-development and vanity. For one, it is enough to release only a book through samizdat, and he already considers himself the most unique genius of our time, while the other, having published dozens of books, is still embarrassed when laudatory reviews sound in his honor.
Someone is spoiled by fame, and someone is made a real person. There is nothing you can do about it. If you notice that a person is communicating with you through clenched teeth, try not to take personally his ill will. Decide for yourself if you need this person. Maybe you should leave him in the company of daffodils like him?
Remember the proverb: "Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are"? Do you really need such a friend?
In any business, without interaction with each other, it is impossible to become successful and in demand. Many components should be present in the work of a writer, and one of such details is communication with others like them. By interacting with other authors, the writer learns something new. He perceives information in a different way, which once seemed to him so uncomplicated and boring. Finds in ordinary things many facets that he previously could not recognize.
The writer friend is a beacon on the path of the author, which can illuminate the road and point the right path. To find such a devoted comrade, and also a like-minded person, is the dream of every creative person. But if such a friend appeared in your life, take care of him with all your might and then your creative union will become one of the greatest works of the modern world.
