In the life of almost every person, victories and successes coexist with losses and defeats. The ability to cope with failure is a difficult art that allows you to live life more fully and brighter, without wasting yourself on reflection and experience.
Instructions
Step 1
Naturally, success in this or that business is much more preferable than failure, but even mistakes and failures can bring some benefit if you look at the situation from the right angle. However, before starting to analyze and comprehend unsuccessful events, you should first overcome the emotional crisis that almost always accompanies a sudden loss.
Step 2
First of all, you need to try to convince yourself that only a very limited number of defeats are so-called irreversible events, the result of which will never be changed. Most likely, your case will not fall into this category, which means that it is not worth talking about the final loss.
Step 3
The next step is to deal with feelings of resentment and injustice. There are several ways to accept the existing order of things without trying to blame higher powers for your troubles. For example, you might stick to the optimistic concept that everyone will ultimately be punished or rewarded according to their actions. This approach is often characteristic of religions, because it allows their followers to put up with manifestations of injustice in their lives.
Step 4
A harsher version of the outlook on life is an approach that claims that it is simply stupid to expect the highest justice, so you need to accept the fact that the world is unfair and cruel, and build your life without relying on gifts from fate. Of course, this point of view is more pessimistic, but it allows one to get rid of unnecessary illusions and perceive defeat as one of the integral parts of life.
Step 5
Of course, every failure triggers certain negative emotions, but you need to learn to deal with them as quickly as possible. The fact is that many defeats at a certain stage can still be turned into victories if you act reasonably and quickly enough. This is why reflection is far from the best response to failure. A good option can be the ability to "push" feelings into the background, at least for a while. This will allow you not only to quickly respond to an unpleasant situation, but also reduce the intensity of emotions by the time you can afford them.
Step 6
Planning for the future can be one of the most effective ways to deal with setbacks. We are not talking about ephemeral dreams, you need to make constructive plans. You don't have to schedule your life years in advance: a to-do list for the week will be much more useful. This approach will help you not to fall into depression, as well as take away the energy that you would spend on experiences.
Step 7
After all, if nothing can be done about a losing situation, you can try to learn from it. This should be done not immediately after defeat, but after a while, when emotions subside and you will be capable of analytical thinking. It is possible that you will see a chain of reasons that led you to lose, and also find better options for dealing with similar situations in the future.
