A child begins to understand and feel his guilt for what happened at the age of 5-7 years. Most often, this feeling is deliberately cultivated in it by parents who believe that they are acting with the best of intentions. They think that by doing so they are raising their child to be a conscientious and responsible person. But it is not always enough to admit your guilt for them to correct mistakes.
Instructions
Step 1
If you go back to childhood, you will remember that adults, parents, or caregivers instilled guilt in you for those actions that they didn’t like. It was okay for a child to get his clothes dirty, but after this happened, he could hear from an adult the words that he does not know how to be clean, that he is bad. As a rule, it was not the actions themselves that were condemned, but the person who committed them. The feeling of guilt was introduced into your subconscious through a system of punishments and rewards.
Step 2
Gradually, as you got older, guilt would arise when you or your actions did not meet the expectations that others placed on you. At this moment, there was a substitution of the concept of responsibility and guilt. On a subconscious level, you understood that no action is required from you to correct the situation, it is enough just to apologize, to admit your guilt.
Step 3
Such a substitution subsequently plays a cruel joke with an adult who sincerely does not understand what is needed from him in the family or at work. By inertia, just like in childhood, he knows that he has committed an offense, but has demonstrated that he is guilty, apologized and believes that the issue is over. But the actions of an adult, who is responsible for other people and the work entrusted to him, are not akin to the misdeeds of a child who does not bear any responsibility.
Step 4
Understand that an adult does not need to feel guilty. In the event that you have made a mistake, an apology is no longer enough - you are expected to take further actions with which you will correct the harm done to others.
Step 5
When you stop mechanically apologizing, admitting guilt, out of your childish habit, and start making efforts to always be responsible for your words and actions, only then you can be considered a truly adult. Get rid of guilt and develop a sense of responsibility if you want others to take you seriously.