Communication with the interlocutor occurs not only with the help of words. Most of the information can be obtained by paying attention to the behavior of the partner, his facial expressions and gestures.
Non-verbal signs should be considered in conjunction with speech and events. It is not always necessary to understand them unambiguously: a person can slouch and take a closed position not only from uncertainty, but sometimes just from the cold.
However, in most cases, facial expressions, postures and gestures speak much more truthfully than the speech of the interlocutor. In cases where what is said contradicts the accompanying gestures, trust is worth the non-verbal information.
A person can learn to skillfully lie, but at the same time completely controlling his intonation, facial expression and hand movements is much more difficult. The liar can be betrayed by a slightly altered speech rate, a lowered gaze, or fussy behavior.
Gestures and postures
Crossed arms always speak of a person's desire to protect themselves from the interlocutor and express mistrust and uncertainty.
When a person scratches their neck or the back of their head, they show their insecurity and doubts.
If the arms are crossed over the chest, in this case, latent aggression joins the distrust. Hands on hips express protest and a desire to challenge the situation.
Erect posture and widely spaced legs speak, on the contrary, of a person's confidence in his righteousness and willingness to defend his views and interests.
A protective reaction is the need to constantly hold something in your hands. This could be a purse, a fountain pen, or a telephone. Thus, a person symbolically represents that he is not alone, and he has some kind of support.
When a person constantly twirls something in his hands, he is at this time in confusion and ponders the situation.
If a girl often straightens her hair or winds a strand of hair around her finger, then she is showing sympathy for her interlocutor and is trying to flirt.
Resting his head with his palm and often glancing to the side, a person shows that he is bored and is looking for an opportunity to leave an uninteresting company.
When a person starts drumming his fingers on the table, he expresses his impatience and desire to speak up or change the topic of conversation.
Signs of lying can include scratching your nose and covering your mouth. Pay attention, when a child is lying, he immediately covers his mouth with his palm, trying not to let it out. An adult is able to resist this gesture. However, the deterrent can manifest itself in rubbing the mouth or biting the lips.
Facial expressions and eye expressions
When listening to the interlocutor, you need to pay attention to his facial expressions and eye expressions. If a person is trying to convince you of something, and his gaze is often directed to the side, then he himself does not believe in what he is talking about.
A narrowed gaze expresses contempt and aggression, while a gaze that does not blink indicates that the interlocutor is mentally evaluating you.
Dilated pupils indicate a state of inspiration, excitement, or love.
An insincere smile or "made laugh" can be recognized if the expression in the person's eyes remains unchanged. When they smile heartily, they always squint a little. At the same time, a sincere smile appears on the face quickly enough, and a fake smile slowly stretches like a grimace.
