As often happened: you are asked for something, and you, without hesitation, agree, guided by momentary blissful impulses. And then awareness comes, and you understand that you do not want to do this at all, or, moreover, you cannot. But what is the right way to undo your already made decision?
Instructions
Step 1
This is not easy to do. Moreover, your cancellation, even if it happened 15 minutes after consent, can be equated by a person with irresponsibility and even betrayal. After all, he has already hoped for you, made plans, exhaled, and then you ruin his whole scheme with one phrase "I changed my mind." Therefore, the first piece of advice will be the following: as soon as you understand that you should refuse, do not waste too much time thinking, immediately contact the person and tell him about it. Every minute of delay can complicate the situation.
Step 2
The most difficult and simplest at the same time is to tell a person everything as it is. Do not invent artificial excuses and do not weave relatives and friends to your story, to whom you allegedly promised something. Alternatively: “I exaggerated my capabilities, and I most likely will not be able to fulfill your request. And since I don't want to let you down, you should find a replacement for me. I hope I'm not bothering you too much. As a rule, such a sincere, without unnecessary inventions, recognition acts more gently, and a person treats him with greater understanding.
Step 3
If the spirit is not enough to say that you just changed your mind, you should find a worthy reason. But the main thing here is not to go too far. Stories about a friend's puppy unexpectedly sick and you need help getting to the veterinary hospital are more suitable for a feature film. Especially it will look funny if nothing like this has happened before in your life. Tales about a leaking pipe in the bathroom are also worn out and banal. Therefore, a more acceptable option would be to say that you twisted and forgot about the rescheduled meeting. In this turbulent world now, this will not surprise anyone.
Step 4
Be extremely polite, do not give in to emotions and excuses, if suddenly the person to whom you promised something starts to resent and reproach you for being unreliable. You made a mistake, therefore, as the culprit, you should be as discreet and courteous as possible. Apologizing a few times, shaking hands, or patting the other's shoulder will help you keep the bond between you and your partner together.
Step 5
No need to say phrases like “I will definitely make amends” or “Let me do something for you another time”. If you want to somehow rehabilitate yourself in front of a person, then it is better to just do it once, but not promise. Repeated such a situation can fatally affect your relationship, and the glory of an irresponsible and unreliable person spreads in a matter of hours.
Step 6
But most importantly, think before you speak. Try to avoid similar mistakes in the future, because each reversal of your decision adds uncertainty to your personality in the eyes of other people. It would be more correct if you ask for a few minutes to think it over instead of agreeing on emotions and then grabbing your head. And even more so, you don't need to agree to anything out of fear or a desire to please someone. Be honest and remember that every decision you make can affect both your life and the life of another.
