It is often not necessary to have any special talent to become the soul of the company. You just need to be able to maintain a conversation, be interesting, confident, and attract attention. Even a modest, overly shy person can achieve success in this, if only he will work on himself.
Instructions
Step 1
Start with yourself. If you cannot be in the center of the conversation in any way, then the point is not that you come across bad people, but that you yourself do not know how to behave correctly. Overcome shyness and fear of interlocutors, relax. Get rid of the "keep quiet and listen" and "keep low profile, stay low-key" attitudes that are taught to some in childhood.
Step 2
Be yourself, don't be afraid to show your feelings. But at the same time, try to communicate simply, avoiding excessive pathos, pretentious phrases, reading notations and moralizing. Use gestures to enhance and emphasize the effect of your words. But do not overdo it: sweeping, sharp gestures are not always appropriate.
Step 3
Know how to keep within the framework of the conversation and talk about what is interesting to others. Being in the center of the conversation means knowing how to find a common theme and develop it so that all participants in the discussion will be interested in listening to you. Do not touch sensitive topics - politics, religion, etc., otherwise your words may cause hostility from other interlocutors whose principles differ from yours. In general, be careful in your judgments.
Step 4
Don't mumble or say too much. The interlocutors should be really interested in listening to you, and in order to achieve this, it is worth working on both diction and the very skill of making speeches. Be short and clear. Be equally welcoming and benevolent to everyone in the conversation in order to gain their favor.
Step 5
Do not forget that you must be able not only to speak, but also to listen. Being in the center of a conversation doesn't mean giving long monologues without letting the other person interject words. Do not interrupt when the other person is speaking, but be able to pick up and develop the thought touched upon in time. To grab the attention of someone who is already getting bored, mention them or ask them a question.
