How often communication with an unfamiliar person turns into an alternation of pauses and indistinct phrases. In fact, many people are open to conversation, you just have to learn to find common topics and build a conversation correctly. Using simple techniques, any dialogue can be turned into an engaging conversation.
Instructions
Step 1
I sing about what I see. Despite its simplicity, this principle is the most advantageous. What connects two people sitting in a long queue for any paperwork? Of course, the fact that the wait takes too long, there are too many unnecessary questions in the questionnaire, and in general, the queues seem to be specially invented in order to waste working time. It is with these little things that you should start any conversation. Look for something funny, amazing, interesting in the environment and draw the attention of the interlocutor to this. Many people are afraid to start a conversation, but the first phrases have almost no meaning, the main thing is to set the conversation in a friendly tone.
Step 2
Get personal. People love to talk about themselves, so most people are happy to answer questions about their own person. Observe what your interlocutor is doing, what he is wearing, or maybe what book he is reading. This will help determine a topic that he will happily support the conversation.
Psychologists recommend starting a conversation not with neutral expressions, but with phrases that demonstrate a disposition to the interlocutor. You can find out where he got the thing you like, admit that the novel that he reads with gusto, and made an indelible impression on you. With this technique, you will make a positive impression.
Step 3
Listen carefully. Nod your head, insert approving phrases into the interlocutor's monologue, try to catch his emotional state. Ability to listen actively will win any person towards you, will allow you to win his sympathy and trust. Active listening excludes value judgments and critical remarks. After all, your goal is not to teach, but to empathize. This tactic allows the interlocutor to relax, feel comfortable and openly express their emotions.
