Many people lack confidence in themselves, in their abilities. Shyness, fear of approaching someone you like, fear of asking someone - insecurity manifests itself in a variety of guises. But it can be overcome by performing special exercises.
Instructions
Step 1
If an action makes you feel timid and insecure, try the following exercise. Imagine the worst that can happen if you decide to do it. For example, you want to approach a person you like, but you are afraid. What's the worst case scenario? He will deny you reciprocity or even laugh at you. Will you survive this? For sure. But you get a great chance to meet, which will not be if you get cold feet. Imagine that you have already lost - you have no more hopes, you have nothing to lose. Knowing this, just walk up and meet.
Step 2
One of the most common reasons for self-doubt is dissatisfaction with one's own appearance. At the same time, fears are usually greatly exaggerated, and there is really no reason for concern. There are two directly opposite ways to treat this fear. The first one coincides with the aforementioned scenario - agree that you are terribly ugly and this cannot be changed. So, let them accept you for who you are. In the end, the main thing in a person is not appearance, but soul. Do not try to hide anything, on the contrary, communicate with your head held high - let everyone see your ugliness. Those who do not understand you will turn their backs on you - but you do not need them. Only those who are close to you in spirit will remain.
Step 3
The second option is that you refuse to consider yourself an ugly person, no matter who says anything. You are beautiful, stylish, attractive … If someone does not understand this, this is his problem. Do not convince yourself that you are beautiful - just know it, feel with every cell of your body. The whole secret is that when you feel like a beautiful person, you will really become more beautiful.
Step 4
An equally important reason for self-doubt is the banal lack of energy. A strong-willed person, as a rule, is full of energy, it literally radiates from him. The strength of a person can be determined by his gaze - the weaker one will avert his eyes first. You can accumulate strength both with the help of energy exercises (you can read about them on the Internet), and with the help of psychological training.
Step 5
A very good way to become stronger is to identify with the "totem" animal. Choose a strong animal attractive to you - a tiger, a bear, a wolf … Then, walking around the city, try to identify yourself with it. Feel its strength, calm, unhurried, great gait. Do not imitate the predator outwardly, everything should happen only in your mind. Outwardly, you should remain the most ordinary person. But if you regularly practice this technique, then after a while you will notice the changes taking place in you. You will really become stronger, your strength will begin to spill out, manifesting itself in your movements, look, voice. At the same time, much of what scared you will seem to you just ridiculous.
Step 6
A good exercise is to experience difficult situations before going to bed, already in bed. Try to feel them as sharply as possible, scroll them over and over again in your mind, getting rid of negative emotions, cultivating a sense of strength and self-confidence. This method is used by many athletes, mentally rehearsing complex elements of the performance. As a result, their performance improves significantly.
Step 7
Never be led by anyone. Remember that everything in this world is based on centers of power: the weaker revolve around the stronger. Learn to say no if you don't feel like fulfilling someone's request. As a result, you will become noticeably stronger. Failure to say no at the right time is a sign of weakness. Do not look for idols for yourself, do not blindly follow the authorities. Have your own opinion about everything, and people will start reaching out to you. This is as it should be - you become a center of power, and people begin to revolve around you …
