We are accustomed to the fact that we like good feelings and unpleasant bad ones. In fact, the correct division of feelings into good and bad is based on how much they adapt a person to reality, how much they help him live.
Psychologists identify at least 4 feelings that cannot be got rid of, because they benefit our body and psyche. Some of them may surprise you.
Love
Love is rightly considered the queen of all feelings. It is love that turns our existence into real life. She personifies forward movement, striving, flight of the soul.
It is difficult to imagine a person who would like to get rid of the feeling of love. However, it happens all over the place. Lack of reciprocity or the inability to be with a person - and we do our best to erase him from our life. Circumstances force us to work at the “wrong” job - we try not to remember our dreams. And there are a lot of such examples. However, if you try to get rid of the feeling of love, it will lead you to a gradual numbness and extinction as the opposite of life and prosperity.
Fear
Fear is "presented" to us by a sense of self-preservation. It is not difficult to imagine what would have happened to humanity if people by nature did not know fear. Fear protects us from real danger, makes it clear in time that we need to be saved.
The ban on fear leads us to anxiety. Unlike situational and justified fear, which "burns out" if given free rein, anxiety is much deeper. It often takes the form of a chronic anticipation of an experience of horror, regardless of whether you might be in danger or not. In especially difficult situations, generalized anxiety disorder may occur when a person is in a constant state of tension and mobilization. At the same time, he himself understands that there is nothing dangerous around him, but he can no longer cope with anxiety.
Anger
Anger helps us to defend our boundaries. It is like a sensor that gives a signal when someone invades our territory. If a stranger tries to take your hand, then ideally your first reaction should be a flash of anger and an attempt to pull away. If your friend takes your things without asking, you will also feel anger and only then will you understand the situation. This is a normal reaction.
If you suppress anger and do not learn to adequately defend your boundaries, it will gradually lead to feelings of anger. You are already angry not for some specific violation of your borders, but always expect a catch from everyone, are ready to defend and even attack in advance.
Sadness
Sadness is a feeling that allows us to live and accept the losses that everyone in life certainly has. With the help of sadness, we have the opportunity to burn out what was dear to us and continue to live on.
If you forbid yourself to be sad, it will be replaced by melancholy. And the problem with melancholy is that it is addressless. If we are sad about something or someone, we have something to remember, where to direct our energy, how to live this state, then we simply yearn “into emptiness”. This is a debilitating condition that is often very difficult to deal with. Longing can lead us in two directions: either depression, or thoughtless, and sometimes riotous activity.
To understand and determine whether we are living our feelings correctly, it is worth listening to ourselves. Any of the forbidden feelings will be reflected in your life as discomfort or suffering. If, on the whole, you feel joy and satisfaction from life, then you are moving in the right direction.
