A person is a very emotional creature, he is constantly overwhelmed with some kind of feelings. Among them there are pleasant ones: joy, delight, satisfaction, love. But many feelings weigh heavily on a person's heart, and one of the most unpleasant feelings is shame. Overcoming shame is incredibly difficult, it gnaws a person from the inside, depriving him of energy and all the joys of life.
Instructions
Step 1
To overcome shame, it is necessary, first of all, to understand what gave rise to it. A person can be ashamed of their unseemly actions, and this shame is a good and generally useful feeling. It is akin to feeling guilty, it helps to understand what is good and what is bad. It is the voice of conscience that makes us feel the need to do good through pain.
Step 2
But there is another shame that is completely unhelpful - shame, which prevents a person from living for many years. We are talking about situations when a person feels inferior, defective because of his appearance, social or material status, education or other characteristics. Women are often ashamed of the flaws in their appearance: overweight, uneven dentition, irregular facial features. Men are more worried about the lack of career growth, lack of money, and a used car. Even frivolous children feel ashamed that they are somehow different from their peers.
Step 3
If shame is caused by an unseemly act, you need, first of all, to try to eliminate its dire consequences, to correct the deed. It is imperative that you apologize to those who have suffered as a result of your wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness.
Step 4
Then it is important to take the last, most difficult step - to forgive yourself. It's really not easy, it's much easier to forgive others. Understand one thing: we all make mistakes, and we have the right to do so. A person learns through mistakes, every mistake makes him a little wiser, kinder and better. The one who does nothing is not mistaken. Realizing this makes it easier to get rid of the shame.
Step 5
Otherwise, you should work with the shame generated by the feeling of your own inferiority. Only very wise people who understand the simple truth can overcome such shame: every person is needed as he is. How boring would be a world in which all people are perfect and similar to each other. There are advantages to the fact that all people are different. Of course, it's a shame to be among the not the most beautiful and successful, but that means that it is necessary.
Step 6
Another way to overcome this shame is to strive to correct deficiencies. Overweight women go on a diet, people with birth defects trust plastic surgeons, people with little education enroll in schools and courses, enter universities and technical schools. Such changes require significant effort and willpower, but they pay off handsomely. A person not only overcomes shame, but also imbued with self-respect and pride in the results achieved.
