Self-confidence is one of the main ingredients of a happy life. Uncertainty in their strengths and capabilities does not allow a person to achieve what he would like, makes him feel like a second-class person. Fortunately, self-confidence can and should be developed.
Instructions
Step 1
Self-love problems most often come from childhood. If a person was disliked in childhood, he will feel unstable and unsure of himself, he will be offended by his parents, engage in self-criticism, etc. You need to stop doing this if you want to love yourself and be confident. Realize that your parents are the best they can be. Make peace with them at least in your soul, forgive them for their mistakes.
Step 2
Don't criticize yourself, be happy with what you have. Often, self-loathing arises from excessive criticism. It seems to a person that he has achieved little, lives poorly, and he gnaws at himself day after day, comparing his achievements with those of his acquaintances. All these actions do not push a person to achieve at all, but only increase the level of his discontent and despondency. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique and you are living your own unique life. Anyone's success has nothing to do with you.
Step 3
Don't berate yourself even jokingly. Everything that we say in our address, our subconsciousness fixes and gives out in the form of an attitude towards ourselves. If you jokingly call yourself a fool or a fat cow, this is the image you form in your soul. So forget about criticism. Even if you did something reprehensible, express your dissatisfaction with the maximum in tone. The phrase "well, I'm a blonde!", Uttered in a reproachful tone, will perfectly show others that you reproach yourself for an oversight, and at the same time, it will not affect your self-esteem in any way.
Step 4
Praise yourself and take pride in every little thing. It is most effective if you start keeping a journal where you write down everything that you can praise yourself for today. Write about the smallest, everywhere look for a reason for pride. For example, they washed the dishes perfectly, earned the praise of the boss, etc. It is best to take notes in the evening and re-read them from the beginning in the morning. Reading this diary every morning for 15 minutes will create a powerful boost of self-confidence for the whole day.
