The way a person perceives himself is often different from how other people see him. However, learning about this can be interesting and useful. After all, the impression that a person makes largely depends on his success both in his personal life and in his career.
Instructions
Step 1
In many ways, the perception of a person depends, especially at the initial stage of communication, on the first impression that he made. Studies have shown that people can assess a stranger or a stranger in just seven seconds, including whether they are interested in a person, attractive, smart, or stupid. Of course, the first impression is not completely correct, and sometimes completely deceptive, but this is not a reason to neglect the opportunity to win over people "at first sight." Posture, movements, gait, gestures, gaze, facial expressions provide 55% of the information; voice, timbre, speed of speech, intonation - 38%; and the words themselves - only 7%. Non-verbal information in the process of communication is up to 95%. All this together forms a holistic image of a person in the mind of the interlocutor.
Step 2
Those who want to make their communication more effective are working on themselves, on their self-presentation. Lowered shoulders, hunched back, fussiness, clumsy or constrained movements give out self-doubt, so noticing this behind yourself, you can train the look, posture, gestures and voice of a confident person. The same words, spoken with different facial expressions and intonations, will produce completely different impressions.
Step 3
Appearance is the first thing that people see and on the basis of which they judge a person. Here, first of all, the image as a whole plays a role. Whether a person is neat and tidy, whether his skin and hairstyle are in order, whether his clothes are not worn or wrinkled - these are all elementary things. It is also important how well the clothes fit on the figure, whether it suits the face, whether it is appropriate in a given setting, whether the colors are harmoniously combined. There are people who are inclined to estimate the cost of things and accessories and, based on this, draw conclusions about the status of their owner. Even if the clothes are inexpensive, it is good if they are of high quality and tasteful. Women pay more attention to small details than men, especially in the image of other women.
Step 4
After evaluating the appearance and clothing, people begin to evaluate the personal qualities of the interlocutor. An open manner of communication and a smile is usually a big plus and helps to win people over to you. People who cross their arms and legs, constantly avert their eyes, do not smile, are perceived as closed and unfriendly. Communication skills and the ability to maintain a conversation are also very important. At the same time, it is far from always important to say smart things and shine with intelligence, sometimes pleasant conversations "about nothing" can initiate friendship or romantic relationships.
Step 5
If, at the initial stage, sympathy was established between people, then they already begin to find out whether they have common interests, values and views on life. Everything here is individual. For someone with similar interests, your hobbies can make a big impression and a desire to get closer, and others can be alienated. This is natural, because all people are different and it is impossible to please everyone.
Step 6
It can be difficult for a person himself to judge the impression he makes on people. To find out, you can try asking relatives and friends about it. Most likely, they will provide you with a lot of useful information. But keep in mind that they have known you for a long time and better than most other people, so there may be an element of bias in their judgments.
Step 7
To find out what others think of you, psychologists suggest the following exercise: on the Internet or a psychological club, find strangers who agree to come to a general meeting for the sake of experiment. After meeting, telling about themselves, the participants will need to tell what impression each of those present made at first sight, what caught the eye in his appearance, manners and movements, what they liked and disliked about him, whether the initial impression changed after the conversation or not. Such an experiment can be exciting, and sometimes you can learn a lot of unexpected and even not very pleasant things about yourself, but it will help in working on yourself and will allow you not to make your usual mistakes in the future.
