The task of self-education is not the easiest one in the world. It only seems that you can take and quit smoking, stop being rude or start doing exercises. In fact, attempts to start a new life on Monday often end in failure.
Instructions
Step 1
Set a realistic challenge. Let's say if you weigh 100 kilograms and want to lose weight up to 60 in a month, this is unrealistic. As soon as you see that the business is moving slower than you want, you risk losing interest in it. Once again, despair will come to you, and you decide that you will not be able to overcome yourself. It is better to set the bar low and overfulfill the plan than to overestimate it and find yourself in failure all the time.
Step 2
Increase the dose of the new behavior gradually. Let's say you decide to call your grandmother every day. Do not force yourself to listen for an hour to what you have already listened to. Why suffer? Tell yourself that for the first month you talk to her for one minute a day. The second month is two minutes. This will help you cope with her social dissatisfaction faster and will be able to rejoice for your attentiveness.
Step 3
Reward yourself. Every person has something in life that he loves very much, but in which he tries to limit himself. These favorite activities or delicacies can become that "donkey carrot" that will lead you to the desired result. For example, you love pomegranates or peaches, but you find it too expensive. Allow yourself sometimes these fruits as a reward for completing the tasks that you set yourself.
Step 4
Leave yourself a little "bad habit". Everyone knows that the forbidden fruit is sweet. It can be much more difficult to give up something completely than to give up partially. Moreover, each “undesirable behavior” has its own advantages. Rudeness protects, alcohol relaxes, timidity repels unnecessary people. As you develop new behaviors, don't abandon old ones. Just learn to use it for the task, rarely, selectively.
