If you often have a state when there is so little vitality that you want to hide from everyone and start “licking your wounds,” this means that you have loser habits that attract negativity to you. At the same time, you do not understand that you have them and that it is they that prevent you from enjoying life.
There are many habits of a loser, but there are the most pronounced ones that can be traced in oneself. And if you get rid of at least a few, you can radically change your life. And then you yourself will not cease to be amazed at the transformations that will begin around you.
These habits are:
1. Negative thinking
How does it work? Thoughts: "Here, always like this, nothing new - there is one bad luck everywhere", "We wanted the best - it turned out as always." With these thoughts, we are building ourselves a negative program for the future, that everything will always be bad and there is no need to wait for changes. And then we wonder why this program came true.
And all because a person's thought is very strong. Everyone knows the trivial expression "thought is material", only few have applied it to themselves. This is the whole secret. You can know a lot, you can say a lot of clever words, but do nothing.
Meanwhile, psychologists have an expression: "Thought is an act, and often the most important." (Svetlana Lada-Rus. "The ABC of Happiness"). That is, everything that we think goes over to the physical plane. So there is nothing to be surprised at.
What to do? Start tracking your thoughts first, or ask those who communicate with you frequently throughout the day to notice your consistent phrases and common expressions. And write it all down on paper.
When the analysis is done, begin to watch yourself and reverse these thoughts. For example: "Well, this time it didn't work out - the next time it will definitely work out." That is, think only in a positive way, even if everything is crumbling around.
2. Backbiting
There is such a law in space - the boomerang law. If you gossip about a person, they will gossip about you too. And this is the creation of a negative program for your life not by you, but by other people. They will interfere with your energy, destroying it and depriving you of strength.
And in general - they will consider you a bad person, they will not want to deal with you. There is one little secret here: everything that you say about another person, people subconsciously begin to think about you. That is, they relate your words both to the one you spoke of and to you.
What to do? Make it a rule to look for the good in people, rely on this good, and say only good behind your back. And it is better to make a fair remark to the person himself, looking into the eyes.
3. Self-pity and life-complaints
Self-pity is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. Those who feel sorry for themselves or those close to them acknowledge the injustice of the world. That is, he begins to resist the higher forces that send him trials. He thinks that God is unjust, but he is just and knows the best way.
Meanwhile, we get from life only what we deserve - this is also the law. Therefore, feeling sorry for yourself is extremely unreasonable, wrong. And this also has a negative impact on life, because pity takes away strength, steals potential and resources.
What to do?
Track the moments when you have self-pity and try to replace it with affirmations such as "Everything is fair in the world", "What you earned is what you got." Or compose your own phrases that will help you get through a difficult moment.
Better yet, learn to thank. For everything good that life sends, and for everything negative too. It happens that such a positive result grows out of the negative that we do not expect.
4. Lack of sleep
Yes, this is also an important point. Because the one who goes to bed late excludes himself from the natural rhythm. He gradually begins to develop chronic fatigue, his head no longer works so clearly. Indeed, during sleep from 21.00 to 23.00, the brain is best restored, the whole body rests. And scientists consider sleep after 00:00 the least useful, since at about 3:00 in the morning, nature begins to wake up, and the body does not rest at this time.
By the way, almost all successful people talk about their clear daily routine and getting up early - it's worth taking an example from them.
