Perhaps there is no person on Earth who would be indifferent to the opinions of others. We all want to be considered pleasant in every way people, but we often forget about some rules that will help almost everyone to like us. Moreover, these are not manipulative techniques, but elementary rules of etiquette.
A classic once wrote that the best conversationalist is the one who knows how to listen. By analogy with this statement, we can conclude that the best person is the one who is interested in other people.
You will see that people are very fond of doing this - they can spend hours talking about themselves and their loved ones. And with gratitude they will remember the one who listened to them attentively, and they will consider him the most pleasant person, they wish he did not say a word about himself.
This is especially true when people are complaining about someone. Often from the outside it can be seen what a person is wrong about, and you can ask him leading questions that can help you understand that you are wrong. This will put you in his eyes in the rank of an advisor or assistant - that is, someone who supported in difficult times.
In an ordinary conversation, questions will also not be superfluous - this will show that the person is interesting to you, and this is always pleasant.
This puts them in the position of an expert and flatters their pride. After all, if a person asks about something, then he trusts the interlocutor, is open to him and respects him as a knowledgeable person. Moreover, it may turn out to be a reality.
Ask what good things are happening in the life of the interlocutor. Emphasize the positive in the conversation. It improves your mood and leaves a positive memory of you.
This technique is taken from the arsenal of negotiators with terrorists - you need to questionfully repeat the last 2-3 words from the interlocutor's phrase. At first glance, this may seem silly, but, as a rule, it works flawlessly.
Psychologists say that often people see us as we see them. Therefore, it is very important to find positive traits in people and speak about them even behind the eyes, that is, make absentee compliments. Somehow, people feel it and begin to relate better to someone who speaks well of them. And vice versa.
Call people by name. It is said to be the most pleasant sound to human ears. Besides, remembering the name of the interlocutor is elementary politeness.
No one likes an interlocutor with shrill intonations who is ridiculously waving his hands and making faces and tells negative news. An unpleasant picture, isn't it? Try to imagine how you look from the outside during a conversation and change for the better.
A pleasant interlocutor is an erudite interlocutor who can tell you something new. Therefore, try to read more and generally be interested in everything that is happening around, then you will be interesting to people. However, one rule still needs to be observed here: speak when the interlocutor wants to listen to you.
You can begin to follow these rules in a purely mechanical way, in order to get used to being attentive to people. If you like this lesson and you have a sincere interest in those around you - in their problems, worries, experiences and joys, then you may well make many real friends.
