We very often forget that living people are somehow connected with any of our activities. Absolutely everything depends on them! A career and a comfortable life are not possible without communication with them. How to get along in the human world? For this there is a "Platinum Instruction", which makes sense to carry with you to all places where you have to communicate with different people.
Instructions
Step 1
Most people hear, but they do not know how to listen and do not like very much when they are given advice, even really valuable. So, the first rule of communication: never express your opinion unless you are asked about it. Ask more often: "Do you really want to know my opinion"?
Summary: Don't give your opinion if you are not asked about it.
Step 2
Try to gradually eliminate the habit of giving advice to people. It is natural for a person not to notice his own stupidity, but he will gladly hold you responsible for following your advice and failing … Moreover, the counselor acts as an instructor or mentor who, by definition, knows something better. Replace advice with a secret, it does not cause confrontation and brings you closer, because secrets are shared only with those they trust.
Summary: avoid giving people advice and, as a result, being responsible for them; turn tips into secrets.
Step 3
Avoid criticizing other people, they don't like it. But if you cannot do without criticism, then criticize carefully, privately and constructively, arguing and confirming your position with facts. The main thing is to direct criticism not at the person, but at the act or situation. You can’t say: “I don’t like the way you …” That's right: “I am not satisfied with this situation, I would have done this…”.
Summary: do not criticize the person, but his actions and actions, but do not forget to offer something in return.
Step 4
Always, always, praise and respond positively to the person. Praise should be directed at the person you are talking to and done publicly, as opposed to forced criticism. The most effective praise, if, of course, you want to make the person your friend, is with the involvement of a third person. Only respond positively about people, regardless of your true attitude towards them. It will also relieve you of stress.
Summary: Praise and compliment people, and even if you spoke well of the nemesis, and he found out about it, your conflict will take on completely new and gentle forms.
Step 5
When evaluating a person's actions towards themselves, do not assign them the role of an all-knowing expert. Indeed, who is he to comment on you? Imagine that a child or a clown in a circus makes a complaint to you, will you really be offended? It is also always helpful to understand that there are many factors that influence human behavior. Not everyone is able to cope with the circumstances that influence their own behavior.
Summary: do not treat people like all-knowing experts, be able to forgive and not take claims personally.
