Blind adoration of the object of their passions, which is often called love, is nothing more than selfishness, which allows a person to bathe in illusions and be content with their own ideas about relationships. But the ability to listen, understand and feel another person - this is what is called mutual understanding, this is the basis of true love.
Instructions
Step 1
When people fall in love, all their feelings become as if focused on the other person. They begin to love the music that a loved one listens to or watches with him films or programs that they would never watch themselves. Love changes people - and these are not empty words, because changes take place at the neural level in the brain. Love makes a person receptive, and during the period of the hottest relationship, people get used to things in each other that would be difficult to get used to if they did not connect their tender feelings. It is at this time that a special ability to feel a partner is born.
Step 2
You can remember physics. At school, teachers said that if you squeeze two plates of different metals and press them well together (the usual strength of the hands, of course, is not enough), so that the distance between them becomes small at the molecular level, then the particles that make up the metals will start penetrate from one plate to another. For people, love is such a force. So it turns out that people in love begin to understand each other perfectly, one gesture or a slight change in facial expression is enough for them to understand what is happening with their partner. And some are said to be able to feel each other at a distance!
Step 3
If the feelings in your couple have cooled down a little, then it may seem that the previous understanding is gone, and that no one is treating the partner as carefully as before. But if you think about it, then it is important to you? Mutual understanding can always be established again, and the ability to feel each other will return. To do this, try to pay more attention to your partner. Listen to him. It is extremely important for many people to speak up, but often, if they see that they are listening without attention, they will simply shut up. And someone, on the contrary, starts chatting incessantly. This is also a kind of reaction: a person may not be aware, but the basis of his behavior is panic that he is not noticed. So he tries to throw out as much as possible, speaks and speaks, just to say at least something.
Step 4
How do you learn to listen? Listening doesn't mean sitting next to you absentmindedly as your partner tells their stories. Listening is when you pass through yourself everything that is told to you. This is the ability to empathize and empathize, this is the perception of information not only with the ears, but also with other senses, when you read between the lines, hear what the person did not tell you directly, but what he thinks about.
Step 5
With a careful attitude to each other, mutual understanding in a couple and the ability to feel each other only increase over time. Some people who have lived together for more than a dozen years seem to no longer need words at all, they seem to know how to exchange thoughts. Unfortunately, in the modern world, such pairs are less and less common.
