In life, we communicate with different people, this adds variety. But when it comes to joint actions, projects, choosing a life partner, selecting a candidate for a responsible position, then we all prefer to deal with an independent person, an adult, capable of making decisions and taking responsibility for actions.
As a rule, no one wants to face infantilism. How to define a person's independence?
Instructions
Step 1
In a personal relationship, ask if the person has a pet? Caring for "smaller brothers" is a manifestation of independence. Without learning how to satisfy their needs, to equip life, a person cannot help another, even an animal, in this.
A pet, especially if it is a dog, takes a sufficient amount of time: walking, training, feeding, cleaning. A person learns to plan not only his time, but also the life of an animal.
Step 2
Check if the person has younger brothers, sisters, or family members who need care. How does he interact with them? This is also a manifestation of care and independence, but the level is an order of magnitude higher, because we are dealing with a person.
Step 3
Find out if the person lives alone or with parents, relatives. Has he ever had the experience of self-management? If so, how long did this period last? I mean whether he passed this test or not.
After all, living separately from parents, a person counts only on his own strength, sets goals and achieves them, solves problems. Self-management is independence from others, and, consequently, independence.
It also matters whether he rents an apartment or lives in his own. Renting usually requires a lot more effort and expense, and, consequently, the number of tasks to be solved and the responsibility of a person increases.
Step 4
Achievements of a person are a sure sign of independence. Purposefulness, initiative, systematic implementation of ideas into life - these are qualities and abilities that exclude infantilism.
Ask the person what achievements in their life they are proud of. And listen to his answer. This question is often asked when applying for a job.
Step 5
The position held, responsibilities and functions in the workplace also say a lot about a person's independence. Perseverance, organization, perseverance, the ability to attract the right people to solve problems and achieve goals, managing employees, making responsible decisions - the quality and ability of managers and leaders.
Step 6
In a conversation, an independent person often uses the word "I" than "we", avoids expressions in a passive form.
